This is a bit personal but I decided to post it only bcuz of the numerous posts from women complaining hubby doesnt help around the house. Now I dont know if my man saw it on Dr Phil, read it in an article, heard it from a friend or has been reading all our posts, but last night he washed ALL the dishes, then ALL the baby's stuff, cleaned the kitchen & prepared my daughter's diaper bag. When I was taking a cup from our room to the kitchen he stopped me & said "Here, I'll wash that" I told him "There's more than this one cup to wash" (thinking he hadn't seen the pile of dishes in the sink). He said he knew & he'd clean it all up. For me to relax. So, being a typical woman (LOL) I thought 'ok, what the fudgecicle is going on? What did he do? What is he tryin to pull????' Can u believe he actually said he was doing it so I wouldnt be sooo tired last night & well, pretty much have great sex. I wanted to laugh, but then thought "GREAT!" While I was sitting on the  bed trying to remember what to do w/ "free" time, I started thinking I didnt want to be one of those women who uses sex as a pawn. I figure intimacy should be something sacred & beautiful, not used as a weapon or tool. But at the same time, I HAD ME TIME! What's a woman to do? I figure if all it's going to take is for me to REALLY hook him up so I can get help around the house, is it okay to do so? I think yes, so maybe some of the women who's hubby's arent helpful can use this tactic. It doesnt have to be mind boggling every night, but I think doing a little extra once a week may go a long way.

i think that if you feel okay with that arrangement, then go for it.  your husband may not be thinking of you as a 'prostitute' or anything.  he may really figure that if you had time to yourself and rest, then you'd have the energy to make great love.  it makes perfect sense, and shows that he understands that part of the reason why many women cant perform right or even want to do it at all, is because we are exhausted form doing everything else!

of course, if this is the ONLY way for him to do things around the house for you, then dont let it be habit.  explain to him that you are happy he made the connection but that you'd love it if he did housework even without an exchange for anything.

Haha... April what a great idea! I think I will try that tactic on my hubby next time if it will get him to do some housework! :) 

i think there is nothing wrong with it, as long as you are not saying "I will have sex with you if you do this" or "i wont have sex with you unless you do this"

if he is just being helpful to try and get some, i dont see a problem with it. the way i see it, instead of taking you out for a dat every other night, he is cleaning. and frankly, i would rather have the cleaning, lol.

now if only i could get my fiancee to clean, in order to have sex, but without telling him thats what i want him to do... hmmm, i will have to think on that one.

Leave this post up on ur computer in hopes he'll read it!! LOL

lmao!! If only he read what was up on my computer! i always yell at him for even going near it!

i am bad at hinting, i find it easier just to tell him. whenever someone writes a vent on here that i agree with, i always read it to him, and say "see, you do that too! and it is reallllyyy annoying, so stop." lol. i will have to learn how to hint, its the only way.

I think it is FANTASTIC that he thought of that all on his own!! LOL I dont think it is a bad thing, as long as you dont really make a habit out of it..but then again if you do.. so what? cuz you are getting free time and he is doing housework.. i dont see the issue there!? :) I probably would have taken a nice long bath and freshened up and then relaxed a bit and did something I NEVER have time to do..paint my nails or I dont even know.. but it would be great if we could get him to talk to our men and let them know that it works!! I dont see how we could *hint* at that! Have fun!

I think it is FANTASTIC that he thought of that all on his own!! LOL I dont think it is a bad thing, as long as you dont really make a habit out of it..but then again if you do.. so what? cuz you are getting free time and he is doing housework.. i dont see the issue there!? :) I probably would have taken a nice long bath and freshened up and then relaxed a bit and did something I NEVER have time to do..paint my nails or I dont even know.. but it would be great if we could get him to talk to our men and let them know that it works!! I dont see how we could *hint* at that! Have fun!

I think it is FANTASTIC that he thought of that all on his own!! LOL I dont think it is a bad thing, as long as you dont really make a habit out of it..but then again if you do.. so what? cuz you are getting free time and he is doing housework.. i dont see the issue there!? :) I probably would have taken a nice long bath and freshened up and then relaxed a bit and did something I NEVER have time to do..paint my nails or I dont even know.. but it would be great if we could get him to talk to our men and let them know that it works!! I dont see how we could *hint* at that! Have fun!

I think is is Wonderful also that hubby took time out to think about you ... Ok him too but it was definitely in the feild of foreplay..... Giggles...  Thanks for posting!!

I am jealous...  your husband is very smart. Wish my boyfriend would of thought of that... or at least tried something like that.

OK - different to say the least! if it works for you then go for it.... for my self I don't need any of that I get the help I need in and out of the bedroom. It called being there of one another .