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Hello I am a new mo of a beautiful 9 month old girl I also have 2 step sons my problem is my boys are always fighting with each other.I feel like I spend all my time yelling at them.I do not want to be like this but I do not know what to do I work two jobs and try to be a good mother and wife. The boys are in camp during the day and with me at night, their dad works 2 jobs also.We are working alot because my husband is getting ready to bhande careers and his new job will not pay enough while he is in training so we are trying to make up the difference. This is only temporary.and I will be back to being a stay at home mom. I just feel like when i am with the kids I am yelling all the time and I do not want to be like that but they fight non stop.Please help
Posted by Hope on 06/26/2007 09:04 AM

This is a difficult situation. You need to find time for you and your husband to sit down with the boys and explain what the family is going through and that you need their help to make it work. They may be feeling neglected because their father is so busy, or resentful of you because of feelings about their mom. Do they see her? Try to talk to them about what is going on with them, if they are jealous of the new baby, their father's relationship with you. When they fight instead of just yelling at them to stop try to talk them through it so they can learn to work out their own problems. Give them responsibilities that are appropriate for their ages and corresponding special privileges. You and your husband need to each make time to spend with them individually. All of these things will help them to feel understood and like valuable members of the family. Give them time. A new step mom, a new baby, plus the busy schedules are a lot for them to handle, the need a chance to adjust.
posted by Marcia on 06/26/2007 09:57 AM

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