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My little angel just turned into a devil! My son is now 18 months and has been raising hell everywhere. He keep sthrowing these tantrums all day long and when he gets really mad he smacks me in the leg, arm FACE!! I have tried time out I have tried ignoring him. I thought it was terrible 2's not terrible 18 months. How can I get my son to stop acting like this? We where in Babies R Us the other day and he threw a fit and smacked me right in the face and some woman started saying "Oh my gosh did see how that child just smacked her in the face and how he is acting" I was so embarrassed
and angry. I never hit my son where is he getting this from. I would appreciate any input. Thank you |
| Posted by amber on 06/25/2007 11:24 PM
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Hello Amy..........
I was just watching this shoe alled Supper Nanny, have ypu ever heard of it? Anyway, she was saying that children who show that type of frustration needs to have boundries set. When they act out, you need to look tem in the eye, with a firm look and tell them not to do that. Your baby is too young to be put in time out or to even understand it. I have a 2 y/owho jus turned 2 on the 6th and she used to try and do that. I know that she got it from the other children at daycare, and when she would do that, I would grab her hand and tell he not to git me. Have her to go and sit down. She did not like to get disciplined, but that made her stop. She has not done it since. Also, you can usually tell when they are about to hit you, and stopping them in the middle of it usually catches them off guard. Also with te acting out in public, if you stop that behavior at home, it will stop in public. Teach them at am early age to be quite, sit still and behave and it usually spreads outdoors. Hopefully this helps!! |
| posted by sharice on 06/25/2007 11:40 PM
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| OOOPPP just noticed I called you Amy, that is my friends name and I was just talking to her.......sorry AMBER |
| posted by sharice on 06/25/2007 11:41 PM
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| I can some what relate to what you are saying. My son is now 25months, and I'm having a very hard time with him. He throws tantrums. He doesn't hit me but he screams and cries and yells. I don't take him shopping unless I have to or I have someone with me. I too get embarrassed with how he acts. I've tried timeout, taking things away. I'm hoping its a faze and will go away. But hes been like this for quite awhile. Like the other day I had just put his baby brother to sleep and he went over to the playpen and yelled ZACK and tried to wake him up. Sorry I don't have any advice. Just know that you are not alone. |
| posted by Stacy on 06/26/2007 09:30 AM
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| Thanks guys sometimes I forget that I;m not alone lol its hard when you stay at home and your cut off from the world thanks again talking about makes me feel better : ) |
| posted by amber on 06/26/2007 01:50 PM
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| hey girl I agree you son needs to have boundries but the fact that hes young is not a problem you said you tried time out how do you do it I put my son on time out at the age of 12 months, he got it after a while assign a chair rug spot anything that you will call timeout dont let him move from there untill he stops crying no distractions toys or tv them whe he is calm tell him what he did if you had been doing that I am sorry I cant help you coz It worked with my son but I hope this helped a bit |
| posted by Mary on 06/26/2007 01:54 PM
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My son hit his terrible twos at 16 months. My pedi says terrible twos CAN start at 15 months. My pedi also said he couldn't tell me to hit my child but was known to spank his own. I couldn't really relate to how I could hit my child for hitting me but I went through a short stage of him hitting me in the face too. I hate to say it but one day I resorted to smacking him right back. People can yell at me all they want but I only had to do it once. Being firm and "setting boundries", time-outs, ignorning him - none of it worked. I'm not suggesting it for you mind you!! Sorry I didn't really help you - but know you aren't alone!
Lucinda |
| posted by Lucinda on 06/26/2007 09:19 PM
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| I understand your dilemma. my son is only one. he just turned one june 16th and he throws huge fits. he slams himself on the ground. tries to throw himself out of my arms and hits me all the time. When he isnt throwing a tantrum he is the sweetest little boy. I was never told this would start so early. I just try to make sure he is safe and ignore him. thats all the advice ive been given. wish i could help more. hopefully i can learn from others answers to. |
| posted by katie on 06/26/2007 09:51 PM
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| I am hopeing that ignoring him or timeout will work but it seems to be getting worse. My mother yelled at me and said just spank his butt and then he will know not to do it again and I have always been against spanking but I'm at my witts end right now. I hate that he can get me that mad that I would even think of smacking his butt but I can't go on like this. My mom keeps telling me "Well I spanked both you and your sister on the butt and you turned out fine it's not like I beat you" I don't know but I guess I will just have to do what I think is right and will work for my son because every child reacts differently to everything so we will see. thank you guys so much for your input its amazing that I get so many good suggestions and helpfull hints. |
| posted by amber on 06/26/2007 10:04 PM
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| I have the same problem! My 2 yr old is bad. Hitting, spitting, screaming... I don't know what to do either. I just reinforce that it's not nice and use a stern voice. I hope that stops it eventually. Just know you're not alone!! |
| posted by missy on 06/27/2007 10:03 AM
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Hey Amber. I didn't read through the other responses, so I'm sorry if this is repeating anything. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this right now.
I wonder if anything has changed in his surroundings? Have you gone back to work? Is there a new person in his world that he doesn't like? What about dad? Anything different there? His language skills right now are probably quite limited and so finding out why he is so upset or sad or angry is a major deal right now. What is he trying to tell you that you're not hearing. Are these moments in a response to not getting his way? If so, then this is just his fleshly nature coming out. Children don't need to be taught to strike out; it's ingrained in our nature from birth to express ourselves in any way that will get us what we want. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed, but be consistent with how you deal...and firm...solid. Let him know exactly what his boundaries are! Stay clear, on his level of understanding...and this is just my opinion, so you can do with it as you like, but I'd draw the line at hitting you...especially in the face. He has to know now that it is unacceptable...and then a clear full punishment. Even if it doesn't seem to work now, keep consistent. He'll get the message. But, I think that if this is a sudden thing for him, there may be something else going on underneath all the tantrums. |
| posted by Kelly on 06/30/2007 03:43 PM
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Hey Kelly,
I tried looking at everything to see what has changed and the only thing I can think of is that he usually has a play date with my friends kids everyweek but they have been sick for the last 2 weeks so he hasnt played with them and since I dont work and he stays home with me I was thinking maybe he is bored even though we do alot together I think he misses him friends, I just enrolled him Little Gym and I am hoping tha twill calm him down a little bit and give him somewhere to focus his energy. I also noticed that alot of the time when he gets mad and hits me its because I dont do something he wants like go outside at that moment or whatever he wants me to do if I dont do it he gets mad. He has been better the last couple of days and instead of throwing fite 50 times a day he only throws like 3 or 4 small ones. I think he is going through a faze and hes frustrated that he cant communicate as well as he would like to and that hes bored and wants something to do. I appreciate your input its nice to know someone understands how i feel
have a great weekend |
| posted by amber on 06/30/2007 11:55 PM
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| good advice. That woman on Super Nanny knows what she is doing. |
| posted by Melinda on 07/01/2007 09:50 PM
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Hi Amber!
I went through the same thing with my son when he was younger. It started at about two years old, but it didn't end until like, the middle of his fourth year! Seriously, the terrible twos last a LOT longer than just a year, and three years old is even worse than two years. There were times (when my son was three) that I would put him on time out (several times a day, I might add), and when I would put him in his room and shut the door, he would SCREAM at the top of his lungs, and throw everything in his room that he could lift right at the door. I would open the door to find that his room looked like a tornado ripped through it! Sometimes he would be such a handful that all I could do was cry. Once he got me so upset, (and I regret doing this in front of him), but I just burst into tears and started sobbing uncontrollably, and I said to him, "WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME?? WHY CAN'T YOU JUST LISTEN TO MOMMY?!" Then I went in my room and locked the door and had a meltdown on my bed. To be honest, since then his tantrums weren't AS bad, even though he still had them. It wasn't until just recently (he's five now), that he's behaved as well as I've ever seen him behave. I feel extremely blessed now, considering what I went through! I think it's a stage that's going to get worse before it gets better, but trust me, once it's over, you should have this perfect little angel, that tells you he loves you like, 20 times a day! If he's anything like my little boy, he'll practically worship you (probably because they know what they've put you through)! Good luck! |
| posted by Rebecca on 07/02/2007 09:19 PM
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