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My little angel just turned into a devil! My son is now 18 months and has been raising hell everywhere. He keep sthrowing these tantrums all day long and when he gets really mad he smacks me in the leg, arm FACE!! I have tried time out I have tried ignoring him. I thought it was terrible 2's not terrible 18 months. How can I get my son to stop acting like this? We where in Babies R Us the other day and he threw a fit and smacked me right in the face and some woman started saying "Oh my gosh did see how that child just smacked her in the face and how he is acting" I was so embarrassed
and angry. I never hit my son where is he getting this from. I would appreciate any input. Thank you |
| Posted by amber on 06/25/2007 11:23 PM
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| Amber, my daughter is about to turn 18 months and she did that a few months ago. She never just kicked and screemed or hit me but when we would tell he no or to stop she would say it and hit her self in the face or head, she would even hit her own hand when I would say do you want mommy to spank your hand. Why she would hit her self in the face or head I dont know.We have never hit her only spatted her hand. She only did it for a few months. This is probebly a fase and will pass. Sorry I don,t have any advice just know you are not alone |
| posted by Natasha on 06/25/2007 11:34 PM
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| My son will be 20 months on the 4th of July and he went through the same thing. I thought that it would never end. It did get alot better and he still does it from time to time. I noticed that he does it when he is tired or bored. My husband and I were just really stern with letting him know that we weren't going to allow him to hit us. It is really hard, of course, to discipline him and stick to it when he starts to cry, you just feel sorry for him, but at the same time, you know that you are doing him some good. Just stick with the discipline and keep your head up. It will get better!!! |
| posted by Holly on 06/25/2007 11:44 PM
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| hi amber. my daughter is 20 months and we went through this about 2 months ago. she threw temper tantrums like there would be no tomorrow. when we were at home and she did it, i would walk off and ignore her. in public, i took her outside for a few minutes to get her to calm down. do not give him "attention" for it because that is what he wants. walk off and do not look at him or say anything to him and when he realizes that he is not getting what he wants, the phase will pass. as far as him hitting himself, my baby pulled her own hair. everytime i would catch her doing it, i would pull her hand back and gently but firmly say do not do that. it worked for me. good luck and keep us posted. |
| posted by Jennifer on 06/26/2007 09:36 AM
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Okay I can totally relate I have a 2 1/2yr old boy and a 3wk old girl. We my son was 18mths he went crazy!! The terrible 2's for many children start a little early, they get that name because most children are learning and gaining independence around that age.
What I recommend is not trying to reason with him, but give him choices. Say he wants to keep playing when its nap time and refuses to go to bed, you say "Okay you can either go to bed and take your nap, or I will take your toy and you can't play until you do." I find if they want independence give it to them but in a way that they can only make the correct decision.
Hope that works or helps! |
| posted by Katrina on 06/26/2007 11:35 AM
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| Hey Amber, sorry to hear you are going through a tough patch. I can relate as well, my son is three and still does the hitting and tantrums. When my son starts to do a tantrum, I simply walk away or ignore it. Yep, even in the store. Sometimes drawing attention to it makes it worse. As for hitting, I simply hold onto their hands and give them a tight squeeze to let them know they need to stop. I know it sounds easier then said, but let's face it, there ways to control outburst without having to spank or beat your child. When you get worked up it tends to make things worse, and I am to blame for that at times. Stay calm and collective. Good luck to you. |
| posted by Roxanne on 06/26/2007 12:51 PM
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| Thanks everyone I really appreciate all the advice I have beem ignorine the tantrums for two days now and though he still has them like 50 times a day lol he stopped hitting me so hopefully that doesnt come back. Now my biggest problem is my HUSBAND everytime Christopher throws a fit he walks in a picks him up or does whatever he wants so know I feel like I'm alone in this battle. : ( I tried to explain to him that the best thing to do is to walk away but he's not. Man I don't know. |
| posted by amber on 06/26/2007 01:45 PM
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Amber - I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. When your son acts up and hits you leave the store immediatly. When you get home put him in time out. 18 months should get two minutes. If he gets up start the timer again till he sits still for two minutes.
Nip this in the bud now or it will get much worse. |
| posted by Melinda on 06/26/2007 02:08 PM
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| Sometimes it is hard when your spouse does things you wouldn't normally do. One thing I have learned if we don't always discipline in the same manner, and it hard to tell them differently without causing a fight or stepping on toes. I have learned to watch how my husband takes care of things, and if he asks, I give my opinion, but I allow him to do it his way first, then we discuss it later. It is a learning experience for both of us. We have a three year old and six month old. We are still new at this. |
| posted by Roxanne on 06/26/2007 02:10 PM
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I would just not talk to him when he does that because, now days you don't want to just walk away and leave him even if it is just around the corner of an isle, because it only takes a sec for some one to snatch him up. |
| posted by Amber on 06/26/2007 04:40 PM
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| I agree Amber, but you can always keep him in eye sight. You can walk away without actually leaving him completely alone. You NEVER leave them alone in a public place, but you also never want to draw attention to the situation either. It is like adding gasoline to a fire. |
| posted by Roxanne on 06/26/2007 05:01 PM
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