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Hi,
I have a 16 month old little boy who is very sweet but very independent. He will not let me hold him in my lap. When we are at playgroup or library, when the other kids in the group sit on their Mom's lap, he will not sit in mine and when I try, and throws a tantrum. Has anyone else experienced this? |
| Posted by Faith on 02/06/2009 02:33 PM
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| My son is 15 mo. and he has gotten like that. He will sometimes sit with me, but mostly that is only when he is really tired. How old are these other kids? My mom has told me that the holding him days are pretty much over. He may get back into letting mommy hold him when he gets a little older, she has told me. But I think it also depends on the kid. My son is very busy. He is on the go all the time. So if your son is like this also I think it just shows his personality. He is just to busy or independent. It kind of sucks don't it? I mean you want to hold them and love on them still, but they are just to busy and preocupied to bother with you. It hurts a little. |
| posted by Kim on 02/06/2009 07:23 PM
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| My son is also not a "cuddler" but he has really never been. Ever since he was a baby, he has arched his back when I try to hold him and now that he is approaching two, the only time he will sit on my lap is when he is upset about something. I know it is hard to let your son be independant (he's still your baby) but there is a flip side, which is seperation anxiety. I am so happy that my son hasn't adopted that trait. Whenever I see a kid clinging to his mommy for dear life, I am proud of my little man who is running around oblivious that I am around. It will definitely make transitioning into preschool/kindergarten much easier. |
| posted by Heather on 02/06/2009 07:50 PM
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Hmm.. my daughter is only 5 months, so I havent had this experience, but I notice all 3 of you have boys. I wonder if that's a common trait for boys vs.girls???
I do know the term "Terrible Twos" is when they are two and want their independence. They dont want you to help them do anything and everything is "Mine!" and "No!" They begin to seperate from mommy and become their own little person, which we in turn interpret as "terrible" behavior. Maybe ur little one's are just advanced? |
| posted by April on 02/06/2009 08:01 PM
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| Yeah my son never went through the seperation anxiety. At least so far. I mean he has kind of cried, but as soon as I am out of sight he is fine and goes on with what he is doing. It is nice in that aspect. |
| posted by Kim on 02/06/2009 08:45 PM
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