Oh my...your daughter sounds just like mine. No joking..She's an angel one minute then the devil the next. She wears clother that my husband and I don't approve of and I can not tell you how many outfits my husband has cut up (yes, cut up because she will go and retrieves them if we just throw them away). She's the oldest and will cause havoc on the others. She yells, pushes and steals from them (and us) at times. It's hard for me because my youngest is only 8 month old. Her grades are going down the drain and she is impacting my other children as well. My 6 yr old is starting to mimic her statements and tones. I can not stand the under-the-breath comments and sarcasium . The worst part is, we don't have an adults that we could try the suggestion above with. Man, let me know if you find some solutions or help...