Poll: If you 'didnt know' your biological father,...

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I created this poll to see what others think and maybe it would help me decide. Im 26 years old and I have no idea who my father is. My mother was 19 when she had me and she raised me as a single mother. She did a great job and I wouldnt change a thing. The only thing bugging me is now that I have my own son, and being a parent, I feel like I want to know. But my mother told me hat he wanted nothing to do with me when I was born so he left my mother to raise me alone. Now thats what she is telling me so I honeslty believe her but what if he has changed since 26 years ago. I have been thinking about this for atleast 2 years now and I just dont know what to do. I honestly dont want anything from him, I just want him to know that I turned out great and happy and that he has a grandson. Thats all. I hope I get comments! Thanks so much!!!!

posted by EthansMommy on 01/12/2010 12:09 PM

I say find him and meet him and see if he's interested in a relationship and take it from there. People grow up, usually.

posted by Sarah on 01/14/2010 09:43 AM

I didn't know my "real" father until I was 16, finding and meeting him was a great thing. For me it worked out and we have a good relationship now but that took years...I had a great mom and step-dad that raised me so I never missed out but there is so many feelings that come out that you will not expect, but even if all you do is yell and cry ( which is something I did alot of at first) at least you can have that competeness, and not wonder anymore...but please be prepared to walk away (just as he did) and be prepared for the fact that he may have other children because that hurts...my father spent my childhood raising kids that wasn't even his...good luck and you can message me if you want to talk more!

posted by jessica on 05/18/2010 12:41 PM

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