He threatend to take both away if I took my son and I really don't have anywhere to take either one of them but either way he is the one with the money, and the job, and the good insurance and transportation, and not to mention all control. My home is 200 miles away and everytime I've left him he did a change of venue in court and I could never make it far enough on time. My family is having there own problems with threre living arrangements them self as well but under certain circumstances I don't know if I can stay and the cost of living here is too crazy to stay in town. I really do feel trapped and my nerves are so bent out of shape over it my stomache hurts all day long. Just being around my husban makes my stomache cringe.Sorry.
Go see a family law attorney. I don't know of any judge or mediator who would agree with an arrangement of splitting up siblings. The focus for you both should be what is in the best interest of the children.