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| I said try harder. However, if you are the only one trying then nothing will ever change. a relationship can not be one sided. If i have talked and talked and really tried...i would leave. Staying for the kids is NOT a good idea. Coming from abroken home myself, kids are happier in two separate happy homes, then one very unhappy home. Kids are smart and see everything |
| posted by Brenda on 10/12/2008 08:34 AM |
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| My last marriage was very difficult. Either I would try and he wouldn't, or the other way around. I loved him dearly, but we waited to long to try to work things out. Talk to your spouse and tell hill that your marriage needs some extra TLC. If things don't work out, at least you can both will know that you tried to make it work. Remember, change doesn't happen over night and only try to change one thing at a time, otherwise you and your spouse will feel overwelmed! Try to set up some dates, and learn to laugh and play together, it will make you want to work on the rest of relationship |
| posted by Heather on 10/16/2008 10:27 AM |
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I say try harder. I was divorced and am now remarried. My ex-husband and I had a child together, he is now 7 years old. He tells me all the time that he wishes we were together and he wishes that he didnt' have to choose between the two of us, he says he wishes we could all live in the same house. He says he wishes me and my husband and our two daughters could live in the same house with his dad and his girlfriend and her daughter. It's soooo sad, I did try really hard to work it out with my ex. I begged him to go to counseling eventhough I was totally miserable with him, but he did not believe in counseling and after a few years of having the door slammed in my face I left him.
All I can say is, try as hard as you can because it does matter to the kids, but at some point if you know you've done all you can do and you know it will never change then you have to put yourself in a position so that you can be the best parent you can be. Sometimes being with that person that makes you so unhappy actually takes you away from your kids, so it's better to get away. It's really scary to start over, but once it's done and you've adjusted it's really better. |
| posted by Crystal on 10/17/2008 05:46 PM |
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| well i was gonna leave my cheatin husband but i love him to much and we have a family and we r gonna go to marriage counceling to work things out.he knows i wont give up on him.i know ppl would tell me that i shouldnt stick around but he means theworld to me and so does our kids. |
| posted by angie on 10/19/2008 12:08 AM |
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| I answered 'Take a break and see if things get better' . . my childrens father and I have had a lot of problems in our relationship, and nothing will get resolved with us being together and living together. So, right now we are not living together, and I told him my focus is on the kids, and his should be too.. then if he wants to work on US then that will come later..and it will be a slow process. We have separated and gotten back together before w/out resolving anything, and nothing changed. So, this time, if he truly wants to be with me, then he needs to work for it. He's done me really wrong and Im over it.. so it really depends on the relationship.. But I would say Sticking around for the kids sake is not a good idea. I think we do that subconsciously though..sometimes its just easier to stay.. but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. |
| posted by Amy on 10/19/2008 07:35 AM |
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