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| We just started time outs only about a week ago and so far it seems to be working. |
| posted by Chelle on 09/04/2008 07:31 PM |
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We use time outs and they do work. My daughter knows if she does something she's not suppose to and gets a warning then the next step is time out. She sits for 2 minutes, her age. When the microwave timer goes off then it's over.
50% of the poll said all of the above and one of the choices was spanking. That is awful. What kind of message are you sending your children if you hall off and spank them? I know every parent will discipline their own way but come on, spanking? That isn't right. |
| posted by Kristen on 09/05/2008 09:26 PM |
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Oh I so agree with the above post. Don't even get me started on spanking....I get so annoyed! I could go on and on.
I chose re-direct...our son is 2, and that works best for now...soon we'll try time outs, I'm sure. |
| posted by on 09/08/2008 03:42 PM |
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| I started time-outs when my daughter was only 16 months old. She has a baby brother who she would throw toys at, so I would take her to the corner and have her sit for maybe 20 sec. or so, not too long, so she would get use to it. Now she is 19 months and knows what to do when I tell her to go sit in time out. When she comes out she says she is sorry and will give me a hug. It works when she is crying for no good reason too. |
| posted by Jessica on 09/14/2008 06:01 PM |
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| I believe spanking is okay if absolutely nothing else works first. but not at any age earlier then three. |
| posted by Nikole on 09/19/2008 01:39 PM |
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| I prefer not to spank, however I have used it at a last alternative. I was spanked, and my mother was spanked and we are all well adjusted adults. I've seen too many spoiled children talking back to their parents and not obeying their parents. What amazes me is the the parents do nothing at all! If a child at 2 can't be control what happens when they are 100 plus lbs. and bigger than you? No wonder we have so many violent, uncontrollable teens doing what ever they please. |
| posted by Lynn on 09/25/2008 10:13 PM |
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| You all are acting so high and mighty, try having a 2 year old that wont listen to anything you say, wont sit in time out has ADHD and is the most stubborn person i have ever met and then tell me that spanking is forbidden, i would love for everyone of you to come and live one day in my house and then tell me if spanking is still out the question. None of you know anyones else situations unless you have lived in there shoes and you should try to remember that before passing judgement. |
| posted by Misty on 10/08/2008 10:35 AM |
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Since my kids are teenagers obviously spanking would be out of the question! LOL
We definitley deal with it by taking privleges away.
The big deals are ipods and video games, they hate to lose access to those!
:) Suzanne
www.OnMomsTime.com
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| posted by Suzanne on 10/18/2008 02:31 PM |
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| my daughter is only 18 months so I have to take away privileges or re-direct her behavior. the combo depending on situation seems to work well at this stage. we will see when she's older. |
| posted by Bethany on 10/25/2008 05:46 PM |
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How can you say that it is ok to hit your child, but then get on to them when they hit? Spanking is just not effective. You are making your child scared of being hit, not changing their behavior.
I chose redirection. |
| posted by Christen on 11/16/2008 09:52 PM |
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I choose all of the above. And depending on the situation I do I feel works. Depending on what happened and nothing else worked in the past then yes I will swat my daughter on the bottom to get her to understand. But after I spank my daughter I give her a hug, tell her I love her and repete why I did it, after a couple of min of cuddling she stops crying and for the most part we don't have a reacuance. My mom did it to me the same way.
At this point time outs haven't worked for us, she doesn't understand the consept yet.
I agree with Misty you don't everyones situation so you sould not pass judgment. |
| posted by Anne on 12/29/2008 02:38 AM |
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| I just tell my daughter no, she screams, stomps her feet, then moves on to something else shortly. |
| posted by Heather on 01/02/2009 02:34 PM |
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| I use what I think will work for whatever the situation is. I think that it's sad that you can't use your own judgement when it comes to discipline with your own child without people giving you their two cents. I think that every child is different and that as a parent you have to do what works with your child. None of us want to do anything that would harm our children. The kind of parents that are going to abuse their children are not going to spend their time on a site with other parents learning from each other on how to be a better parent. That's just my two cents... |
| posted by on 02/02/2009 11:33 PM |
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| Well said Lindy. I chose all of the above, too. I don't like spanking but use it when the situation calls for it. I love my daughter. |
| posted by Loda on 03/14/2009 03:47 AM |
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| I'm gonna go with what worked back in the day when kids respected adults,had manners and were gratefull for the little things in life.And you know what worked then? SPANKING!!!! I am so tired of hearing people call it abuse!look at this world and what kids have turned into,look at how kids curse at there parents and nowadays the kids tell the parents what to do WHY? because parents don't demand respect,they don't have structure and they don't give there kids enough positive reinforcement.I do all of the above but when my child has one of those power struggles I let him know who is boss cause it sure is not him! And I will not have a child that acts the way I see childeren act in walmart nowadays and I get lots of compliments on what a well behaved child I have and he is only 2 and I believe that if you start young they will be well adjusted and happy children because they will know there boundries and consenquences.But if timeouts do that for you than great but spankings do that for me so do not ever judge me on what I do as a parent and call me abusive! |
| posted by Lindsey on 04/20/2009 11:15 PM |
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| AMEN LINDSEY!!! |
| posted by Stephanie on 06/30/2009 04:45 PM |
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| My baby boys (twins) are only 2 weeks old now, so discipline isnt necessary as of yet. However I agree that it is a parents discretion and knowledge of their kids on what works best. I was definitely spanked as a child, and when i got older grounded alot. Spanking worked more. Now i'm not saying I'm gonna haul off and whack my kid, but taps on the hand when they are reaching for stuff they shouldnt (hot stuff etc.) and little smacks on the bottom enough for them to feel it but not feel pain, I dont think are wrong. Now putting bruises on your children or leaving handprints definitley a no-no. But as Lindsey said there is no respect now from kids and I definitely will not have my boys acting the way i see so many children act and disrespect their parents it really disgusts me. If they can treat their parents like that, imagine how they treat the rest of the public. Do you want to be proud that you have a rude child? Or do you want to be proud your child is well mannered and respectful? |
| posted by Tanya on 07/04/2009 01:40 PM |
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To Christine: you say, "You are making your child scared of being hit, not changing their behavior."
please speak for yourself...
my child now knows that when I say come here I mean for her to get to me. She's 2.5 and her behavior is definitely changed.
I've spanked my child when she doesn't listen to things like "come here" and I've said it more than 3 times. If she endangers another child or is being cranky and throwing fits she gets a time out. If she's touching something that she's not supposed to (and we've told her not to), we re-direct, acting unacceptably, she loses previlages, etc. We try to make the punishment appropriate for the mis-behavior.
I continuously get compliments on how my children are so polite and well behaved (they're 2.5y and 14.5m). Must be doing something right, and that DOES include spanking (which is not HITTING) |
| posted by Rachel on 11/15/2009 11:13 PM |
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| AMEN LINDSEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM WITH YOU ON THAT!!!! I COULD NOT HAVE SAID IT BETTER!!!!!!! |
| posted by RavensMommy on 02/10/2010 09:00 PM |
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YOU KNOW, AFTER READING ALL THE RESPONDS, THERE ARE A LOT OF CLOSE MINDED WOMEN ON HERE, HOW CAN YOU BASH ANOTHER MOTHER, BECAUSE OF THE DISCIPLINE, SHE CHOOSES TO USE WITH THEIR CHILDREN, EVEN IF YOU THINK SPANKING IS BAD, WHICH I THINK IT ISN'T.. KEEP IT TO YOUR SELF, WE ARE HERE TO SUPPORT EACH OTHER, AND INFORM EACH OTHER, NOT GET INTO A HEATED DEBATE OVER WHAT WE THINK WERE DOING WRONG WITH OUR CHILDREN, TO ALL THE MOMS WHO THINK SPANKING IS QUOTE" ABUSIVE" UN QUOTE THE BIBLE SAYS 'SPARE THE ROD SPOIL YOUR CHILD", ITS NOT ABUSIVE, ITS A WAY OF LAYING DOWN STRUCTURE, AND LETTING THEM KNOW THAT THIS IS ONE OF THE THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN, IF YOU DO WRONG.. NOW I SEE WHY I SEE SO MANY CHILDREN HAVE TANTRUMS.. IN SUPERMARKETS AND WALMART!! NOT MY CHILD, I WISH HE WOULD, IM BIRTH HIM, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND, SOME MOMS HAVE THEIR KIDS TELLING THEM WHAT TO DO, SAYING WHAT THEY WANT TO SAY TO THEM, EVEN HITTING ON THEM, SHOOT I WISH MY SON WOULD,
I WAS SPANKED, I HAD BOTH PARENTS IN THE HOUSE HOLD, MY MOTHER WAS THE ENFORCER, MY DAD WAS THE RULE MAKER, MY MOTHER WOULD SPANK US, (MY BROTHER)... IT MADE ME STRONG WOMAN, IT TOLD ME THAT THROUGH LIFE, NO MATTER HOW OLD YOU ARE, THERE ARE RULES EVERYWHERE, AND I CARRY THAT MENTAL STRUCTURE WITH ME TODAY. SEE ALOT OF OUR CHILDREN THINK THAT RULES, AND STRUCTURE STOPS AT HOME.NO ITS JUST THE BEGINING!!!
SO DON'T BASH ANOTHER MOTHER, AND I AGREE WITH LINDSEY, AND I WILL SAY IT AGAIN, YOU GO BOO :) |
| posted by RavensMommy on 02/10/2010 09:22 PM |
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Spanking is ok. There is a difference between spanking and beating. You should not be leaving marks on your child. But some children need the physical discipline to understand that their behavior will not be tolerated.
I also agree that their are different disciplines for different behaviors like Rachel explained. |
| posted by Cassandra on 03/13/2011 04:12 AM |
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| i put her in her adjustment chair for 5minutes then she will behave or stop do what ever it is |
| posted by Camille on 05/07/2011 06:20 PM |
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