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| We do pretty much all of them except talk it out and take away a favorite items cause a 16 month old doesn't always understand. When she gets older we will do more of them. |
| posted by Anne on 08/19/2008 08:25 PM |
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| I also have a little one who's 17 months and she also doesn't understand. I often have to use several techniques. Often I try to just tell her NO, but when that doesn't work then I try to redirect, and if she's still persistent then I tend to give her a tap on the hand. When she turns 2 then I'll move on to time-out and later to losing priveleges! |
| posted by Chassity on 09/12/2008 12:42 AM |
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It depends on the age and also what they have done that needs punishment. I have a 5 year old and often find myself doing something as long is it works and then when that stops working I have to try something else...it helps if you can get creative.
Timeout worked for about 2 months, but then he would sit there and 5 minutes later get in trouble again...A few of the things I try are -- take away toys, a reward chart, early bedtime, no TV, household chores (if I think hes causing trouble because he's bored, I may have him do housework with me....this way hes not "playing" put still gets to spend time with me and I get the bathtub scrubbed, clothes put into the dryer, floor cleaned, baseboards/walls cleaned ect....I do most of the work, but he does help.... |
| posted by Jenny on 09/16/2008 07:01 PM |
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| Talk it out .. it is the only I believe. |
| posted by Maria on 10/17/2008 01:03 PM |
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| my son is only 10months but it depends on what he's doing...he tries to test me by going for something(like the remotes) that I've said no to over and over and over every day and when he actually grabs it I pop his hand. Most of the time no works and I know the older he gets the more I'm going to have to say no and think of other ways |
| posted by Amers on 10/20/2008 06:04 PM |
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| Light tap or spanking is the only way they learn. I've been around enough babies to know that. |
| posted by Mary on 11/05/2008 03:04 PM |
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| I believe that I child understand more than we give them credit for. They know at just a few months old not to bite mommy when nursing if she tells them not to or taps them on the butt. A child does not have to be taught to lie, I as a parent have to teach them what the truth is. At the very young age of just a few months old, we used all these disciplines and our children did understand. I'm also instituting another method of discipline and that is using the 10 commandments. They need to know how much I love them, but also that their bad behavior is wrong not only in my eyes, but God's eyes. Now I understand that there are some commandments they will not understand yet like adultery, but I can teach them to love one another. |
| posted by Elizabeth on 11/25/2008 11:20 AM |
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| I don't believe in punitive discipline. How many of the above listed things can you LEGALLY do to a spouse? Yet it is okay to do to a tiny child? You don't EVER hit someone you love. How do you teach someone love with violence? That doesn't even make any sense. Positive discipline leads to a much more loving home and kinder, better behaved kids. And it doesn't just teach them to just not get caught like punishments do, since you are teaching them to self-regulate behaviors. |
| posted by Indigo Ottyr on 03/14/2009 12:37 AM |
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| Usually I don't need to tap my 18 month old on the hand, but I chose that one because Ive had to. It was last resort though. First I tell him no, 2nd time NO, and move him away, and 3rd time is a tap on the hand. Just because I have tapped him on the hand does NOT mean I love him any less. I love my son very much. When I have to tap his hand its usually because he is doing something dangerous or something he doesnt need to be getting into. |
| posted by Rosie on 08/14/2009 09:58 PM |
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I think it really depends on what the child did for the degree of punishment.
However, for this scenario, I will pretend my daughter did something very bad and did not listen to my previous two verbal warnings.
First I would give her hand a slap (not too hard).
Then she would go to “time out”. As I place her in time out, I would explain to her in a stern voice (not yelling and keeping eye contact) why I am placing her in time out.
She will sit in time out for the minutes equal to her age. Now that she is four years old, she will sit in time out for four minutes.
After the time out, I would take her out of time out, hold her and ask her if she understands why she was punished.
This will usually result in her explaining to me her actions, not just a simple “yes”. I want to make sure she understands why her punishment happened.
I then make sure I always tell her, “Even though I got mad at you, I still love you very much.”
This style has been very successful for me and my daughter when it comes to punishment, considering it is very rare it ever happens.
-Gary |
| posted by Gary on 08/15/2009 02:00 PM |
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| i agree that punitive discipline doesn't work but i do follow a "natural consequence" approach except in a situation that is dangerous. My son can and did run in a mall parking lot because he wanted to push the stroller and he didn't see where he was going. in that scenario, i gave him a slap on the butt and talked it out later but i let him know that i was very upset and that situation scared me and it was very dangerous. i will hand slap if he is reaching for the stove w/o a warning b/c as i said, if it is dangerous, i don't want him to experiment and find out that it will burn or that running in a parking lot is dangerous. most of the time, i try to explain why i am saying no and what the consequences are. i also have "home rules" and "outside rules". i let him have more freedom at home and i explain that since it is our house, we have more choices to do what we would like but when we go to someone else's house, we have to follow their rules. this has really worked for me b/c although he can be quite a trial at home, i rarely have to discipline him when we are out and about. |
| posted by Lalitha on 12/01/2009 04:45 PM |
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we try to redirect, then give him an option if not listen. if htat not work count to 3 and by time i get to 3 he has moved, or changed the behavoir. we do use Time out and have since he was about 18months. sometims it works other times not so much.
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