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Hey, if you have answered this poll, please help me to understand what our fellow female minds are thinking and answer these questions in your comment:
If we are expected to serve our husbands dinner, can we still choose to serve him from a place of love?
And if we are just expected to do it, is this a form of oppression? |
| posted by Jennifer on 08/08/2008 12:14 PM |
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| I think as long as the wife is being appreciated for being nice enough to serve her hubby dinner, then that's fine. If it's expected...not fine. We serve eachother dinner, and help clean up as well, but I love serving up something wonderful that makes my man happy after his work day. Call me old-fashioned. :) |
| posted by on 08/08/2008 02:53 PM |
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| I think that if it makes a wife feel good to serve her hubby dinner, great. If he's unappreciative, not great. Even if he's not serving her dinner, maybe he's being kind in other ways. |
| posted by Karen on 08/09/2008 01:51 AM |
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| I serve him dinner every night except Wednesday then his mom does it. But he works and I'm a stay at homr mom, so he says that you should have all of the time in the world. |
| posted by Chelle on 08/09/2008 08:23 AM |
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| I do not cook, not a single meal... so my husband does all the cooking. I set the table, entertain children while he is cooking, and we all pitch in. My exchange for not cooking is clean-up. Marriage is compromise and communication. Find what works for you and yours. If your are not happy, change something. Good luck! |
| posted by Maro on 08/10/2008 11:49 PM |
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| No mater what the task, it should only be done if it make s you feel good. If it's expected and not appreciated than it shouldn't be done. Just becasuse you are a stay at home mom doesn't mean you HAVE to do it but if time permits great! Being a stay at home Mom doesn't mean MAID then MOM, you should use the time you have to teach, stimulate and love your kids then when they have their alone, quiet or nap time, housework would fit in great there. Granted I am disabled and have very limited mobility so when I have my daughter home with me every other week I don't accomplish housework at all, but my fiance understands and picks up all of that slack for me. For that I appreciate him greatly, cause that gives all my attention to my Daughter!!! You gotta love the good men in this world =) |
| posted by Deborah on 08/11/2008 03:17 PM |
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| I enjoy cooking so its nice to do for my husband. we do take turns my husband likes to cook to, we also share the clean up. My husband is good about taking care of our daughter so I can cook or taking us out to give me a break once in awhile. |
| posted by Anne on 08/19/2008 08:32 PM |
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| its more or less like this...sometimes I cook dinner and sit it out on the table and other times he cooks dinner and sits it out OR we are both in the kitchen cooking and getting things ready |
| posted by Amers on 08/22/2008 10:30 PM |
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| I enjoying cooking for my family, but dont do it because i feel it is my duty to my husband. I think it more a duty to my kids to provide them with food. My husband and work well together with meals. He always helps with clean up and often starts dinner if im working later than usual. |
| posted by sarah on 08/24/2008 12:16 AM |
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| Yeah I serve my husbands food and iron and do all the wife stuff sometimes I wish I would have never started before we got married now it seems like its expected. If I'm not home when he around after lunch he acts like he is starving and couldnt walt to the kitchen and nuke something! :-( |
| posted by on 08/28/2008 03:23 PM |
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My husband was raised in the kitchen with his mother. So naturally he loves to cook. But he really appretiates it when I go out of my way to try something new for dinner. We both cook. But most of the time I do it. Only because he does construction at work and is very tired. But he always helps clean up and we talk during that time. My religion says that he is the head and i am to be submissive. but we don't take it to extreams. I am his helper and he is my provider.
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| posted by Nikole on 09/19/2008 01:53 PM |
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| I usualy serve my husband dinner and dessert, but sometimes he serves me, It is easier for me to do it since I am home all day with the kids. It just makes sense for me to have dinner ready for him when he gets home and on the table. Every day on his way home from work he calls me to see how mine and the kids days were, and that is also when I know it is the right time to start dinner. I can't see how it would be fair for him to work all day, then come home and make dinner for everyone while I am there and can do it. He eats his dinner, had his dessert, then while I am cleaning up he feeds our son and daughter then gets them ready for bed. On the weekends he will warm me up left overs. It seems to be a perfect balance. My ex used to expect me to go to work, then come home cook him dinner then clean it up, then do all his laundry at the laundry mat and all of the house work while he would stay at home and play video games at night while I was trying to sleep he always had the volume up so loud I hardly got any sleep. He got plenty of sleep since he would go to bed about the time I would get up for work in the morning, If I said anything about any help or his playing his video games with the sound down he would come after me screaming and hitting me so I learned to just deal with it. I am so happy now I don't know why I stayed in that relationship so long. I would never do it again. It is so nice to have a husband who shares everything with you. |
| posted by Heather on 01/02/2009 03:46 PM |
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| I forgot to mention that after a while of being expected to serve my ex I resented him then began to dislike him very much, It got to the point that I didn't even want to look at him. I would work late so that I would have a excuse to not go home. Now I look forward to doing things to help my husband and defniely put love into everything I do for him. Being expected to do something all of the time is very oppresive |
| posted by Heather on 01/02/2009 03:56 PM |
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