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| There are zero positives to spanking. Period. |
| posted by on 01/30/2008 01:45 PM |
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| I spank only when I tell my son no and then he takes one of his toys and throws it on the ground. And that's not very often. |
| posted by Chelle on 01/30/2008 04:04 PM |
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| There are many people who should not spank for various reasons. However, if used in the proper manner, spanking is an invaluable tool. I am not advocating abuse, by any means. |
| posted by mmm on 02/02/2008 11:03 PM |
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| I think that spanking should be done only at a certain age (not too young and not too old) and should be done very lightly. I think it should also be done only once in a great while, when the child has absolutely acted disrespectfully. I don't think spanking has an effect if it actually physically hurts the child. It only works if the affect it leaves on the child is disappointment. Disappointment in how the child is acting. The light spank is a good way to express to the child how disappointed those acts have made the parent. Small children that are 2 years old don't understand when you try to reason with them. They don't understand when you tell them that you are disappointed with how they are acting. They just hear bla bla bla. A light spank from mommy makes them realize, "wow mom is not happy with me when I hit my friend...I don't like it when mommy is upset with me. Maybe I shouldn't ever hit again." |
| posted by Katherine on 02/20/2008 01:49 PM |
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| nothing good comes of spanking. totally mixed up to hit children to make a point. |
| posted by shakti mama on 03/19/2008 02:14 AM |
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| I was never spanked so my child will not be spanked. |
| posted by on 03/21/2008 06:39 PM |
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| Only as a last resort when nothing else is working, like taking toys away or removing him from the situation, then only a firm swat on the butt once with a firm NO. Doesn't happen very often at all. When he's older we'll switch to time out. |
| posted by Melinda on 03/27/2008 01:44 PM |
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| i am trying to stop spanking because it dosent work you spank them and they go back and do the samething trying to find a different way time out dont work something i dont know what else to do |
| posted by shelly on 05/19/2008 12:37 PM |
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| I don't need to spank as of yet but when the time comes I will but only as a very last resort. I feel that there is a time and place for it, but it may not work for my son. But it depends but as of right now I will if its needed as a last resort......I feel more parents should spank, kids today wouldn't be so out of control if more parents spanked |
| posted by Amers on 06/03/2008 01:23 PM |
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| I will use spanking as a very last resort. Like if what my child has done or was about to do was very dangerous to himself or another. There are many other forms of punishment so I believe spanking shouldnt be the go to thing but there are times when it is needed. |
| posted by katie on 06/05/2008 08:38 AM |
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| spanking only teaches your child anger and confusion. Do you hit someone your age when they do something wrong? Well, why would you do it to your child. There are better & more effective ways to get your point across. You just have to have patience and be creative with it. I found that your child learns by example so do you want him to walk around hitting other children or people? I also think there is a difference between spanking on the but and a slap on the hand. I'm not an expert. |
| posted by Janice on 06/06/2008 02:22 PM |
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| My son is at an age where he occasionally hits. Most people say to smack him on the hand which I think is silly. If you are trying to teach your child not to hit what kind of message are you sending them by hitting them? |
| posted by Rae on 06/09/2008 01:17 AM |
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| I dont spank yet, well cause my daughter is only 8 mths!! But when the time comes I will spank when i need too. I think that there is a time and place, yes. I was raised in a home that was diciplined and I will do the same. I have turned out great and my brothers are polite and well rounded people. |
| posted by Meghan on 07/07/2008 10:19 PM |
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| people that dont spank there kids are the ones that have the out of control mouthy brats! And there parents wonder why there kids are such brats! Cause real parents set an example. |
| posted by Meghan on 07/07/2008 10:21 PM |
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I really do think that this is the problem with kids today. The parents are afraid or think that there's something wrong with being spanked. No, there's not. It's cause and effect dumbed down for a child to understand. You do something wrong, there is a consequence. For a child, deliberately disobeying leads to a spanking.
For example. My purse is a problem for my daughter. I have told her time and time again that it isn't for playing, it belongs to mommy and it shouldn't be touched. One day, not only did she go into my purse, she proceeded to scatter all of it's contents across the living room. That led to me sitting her down on the couch, getting eye level and asking in a very stern voice "Why did you do that?" of course, she replies "I don't know," She got a spanking, then I sat her in her room. After about 5 minutes, I went into her room and said "Mommy spanked you because you went into her purse. If you do it again, you will get another spanking ok?" She said Ok.
After a hug and a kiss, she never touched the purse again.
Abuse is one thing, there's nothing wrong with a spanking. |
| posted by Ashley on 09/04/2008 04:10 PM |
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| I'm not totally sure how I feel... I was spanked as a child, and I feel that it worked beneficially in my life. My daughter is 21 mos, and I'm sticking with the time outs for now... but if it absolutely comes down to it and I feel it's needed, I will. |
| posted by Amber Cable on 10/03/2008 02:24 PM |
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| The kids who are spanked act worse than kids who are not spanked.. What does that tell you???? Spanking does not work... You want to hit a small child.. it is insane... |
| posted by Jennifer on 10/08/2008 09:49 PM |
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| I don't think it's fair to say kids who are or aren't spanked act better than other kids. That differs from family to family. My daughter is only 6 months, so we haven't gotten there yet, but if I do use spanking later on, there will be definate limits, including age limits. When I was 4 or 5 I remember it making me sad and disappointed ( the outcome most people look for ) but when I got older, around 7 or 8, it made me very, very angry at my parents. |
| posted by Libby on 11/05/2008 02:56 PM |
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| with agression comes more agression.. it is very wrong.. Take the power over your child, why not take the same time in educated the child and teach them good and bad in positive way. |
| posted by Maria on 11/23/2008 10:39 PM |
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| Spankings DO work if done properly. And kids who are spanked DONT always act worse than ones not spanked. I was spanked by my father never my mother and you know who took more problems my mom. Because I respected an heeded my father. I remember being spanked only 5 times my whole life as well because I knew better than to misbehave I didnt want another spanking. I hope if I have to use it my children will be benefited and taught like my father was with me. I do believe their are ages you shouldnt use spankings if their too young to understand or old enough for different punishments instead. |
| posted by BratPacMom on 12/08/2008 10:00 AM |
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| My discipline starts with No, then 1 2 3, time out ( during which she has taken to hitting me on the way to the naughty chair) so 3 times she has been swatted very lightly on the bottom, then after time out I explain what the time is for, that she had 3 warnings and ignored them then explain why she was swatted and explain I don't like having to do that then always ended with an apology for both and big hugs kisses and i love you's. I feel awful when I do but I have seen a change in her eyes and she is listening to the no and at most 1,2 we barely get to 3 within the last few weeks! She is 2 and very 2 so she's testing her and my limits and I'm doing all that I can to steer her in the right direction. I hope i'm doing it right but all I know is i love my baby girl more than the air I breathe and would never hurt her! |
| posted by Deborah on 01/06/2009 03:46 AM |
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| The only thing that spanking taught Piper is how to hit. I tried spanking in the beginning and that is when she started hitting me back. |
| posted by Krista on 02/17/2009 11:18 AM |
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Why on earth would you think it is okay to hit someone you love? It make no sense, and like others have said, it only sets the example for the child to hit.
I don't spank my kids and people always complement me on what wonderful, well behaved children I have...much to the contrast of their cousins that ARE spanked and are little hellions! |
| posted by Indigo Ottyr on 03/14/2009 12:45 AM |
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| i spank my toddler son, (only as a last resort), when redirecting doesnt work, and lightly. |
| posted by teresa on 04/11/2009 01:54 PM |
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| I don't spank. I hope I never do. As a child that used to be punished with a belt across the back of the knees. I can tell you I learned nothing from that, except hatred of my parents. |
| posted by Kristen on 04/17/2009 09:25 PM |
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| My grand-daughter just doesn't get it with the going to your room, taking away priviledges or time outs. I have to eventually spank her to get her to understand that I mean what I say. Spanking has it's place but not abuse. Also do not spank with the hand that you love with. Meaning use a fly swatter or folded paper. |
| posted by NANE2MOTHER on 07/12/2009 01:41 PM |
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| I think spanking works when the child is doing something that is dangerous to him/her. Otherwise I feel that timeouts workout. |
| posted by Gretchen on 08/10/2009 05:38 PM |
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| Well when I was little my mom spanked me when I did something bad. So in fear of going home and having to tell my mom what I had done, I tried to stay out of trouble. I think that is one reason that our kids are getting in so much trouble, doing things that we would not have even dreamed of doing.Because they are not afraid of THE PUNISHMENT. |
| posted by Stacee on 08/11/2009 08:56 AM |
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| I have spanked my daughter before and I feel that it is very effective for my child everyone has different opinions. I was spanked growing up and I was always very respective to adults and other people and I want my children to be the same way. Children need to know that if they do something wrong there is a consequence cause and effect really |
| posted by Monique on 09/30/2009 08:51 AM |
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I appreciate the way my parents disciplined me. I KNEW the punishment was a spanking and if I lied about what I had done it doubled the spanking. I knew that was the consequence and I had the choice to do right or wrong.
When I got a spanking they always sat with me afterwards, hugged me and told me they loved me.
I do the same with my daughter now. I let her know she was has the choice to obey or disobey and that if she chooses to disobey she's choosing to be punished. There are times when she chooses to disobey and she gets spanked. I sit with her, hug her and then explain that I want her to be a good big sister/daughter/etc. and that means obeying.
I find it quite effective and will continue to use it as a means of disciplining my children because I love them and want them to be the best they can be. |
| posted by Rachel on 11/18/2009 11:58 PM |
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I don't even scold, yell or scream at my daughter. (I'm always in control of my actions and don't just react.) Spanking (even lightly) will never happen. I don't feel there's any need. I do discipline, but I don't punish.
To me, doing something "negative" don't yield "positive" results. I try to only use positive reinforcement. |
| posted by Joseph & Kyria on 01/03/2010 01:13 AM |
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I think it lets them know that hitting is okay when you really think someone deserves it but
you don't need to touch anyone for any reason... |
| posted by Sierra on 12/03/2010 05:54 PM |
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Very good point Katherine. You explained everything perfectly! Im reposting what you wrote.
I think that spanking should be done only at a certain age (not too young and not too old) and should be done very lightly. I think it should also be done only once in a great while, when the child has absolutely acted disrespectfully. I don't think spanking has an effect if it actually physically hurts the child. It only works if the affect it leaves on the child is disappointment. Disappointment in how the child is acting. The light spank is a good way to express to the child how disappointed those acts have made the parent. Small children that are 2 years old don't understand when you try to reason with them. They don't understand when you tell them that you are disappointed with how they are acting. They just hear bla bla bla. A light spank from mommy makes them realize, "wow mom is not happy with me when I hit my friend...I don't like it when mommy is upset with me. Maybe I shouldn't ever hit again." |
| posted by Cassandra on 03/25/2011 11:33 PM |
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| whenever she hits me in my face ,i will hit her back |
| posted by Camille on 05/07/2011 06:14 PM |
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| in our family spanking is the equivalent of bringing in the nukes. it is only used as an extreme last resort. |
| posted by Bethany on 04/03/2012 12:16 PM |
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