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| I stay-home. My husband and I talked about it and we rather us raise our children then someone else. |
| posted by Sheila * R on 12/10/2007 09:51 AM |
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| I agree with Shelia, it was something we discussed before having children, that I would stay home with them until they started school. I prefer to be the one with them until they are school aged, but I believe if you can, then do, but some can't, and I understand that as well. |
| posted by Roxanne on 12/12/2007 02:18 PM |
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I stay at home now and my son is 2 and I have one on the way.
When D was born my hubby was still in school and we had to some goals so we tried daycare the 1st 7 weeks and we weren't happy. We then found a lady whose mom I had worked with and she was awesome she watched my son with so much love (she was a stay at home mom of 3 kids in elementary and JHS). She watched him until I stayed at home.
I am happy to be home and sometimes feel that he may need to be in a preschool of some sort now to have friends - I do feel like I missed the lil baby days. |
| posted by Renata on 12/14/2007 09:48 PM |
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| I was a very happy working mom with my twins in daycare, till one of my 3month old girls came home with 2 broken ribs. CPS turned on me before investigating the daycare which thankfully after tons of interviews and our parental rights being taken away they deemed us suitable parents. I was the main bread winner, now I'm an extremely happy stay at home mom. We had investigated the daycare before we chose them, it didn't matter. I'll never trust my kids to anyone other then family - ever. |
| posted by Danyelle on 12/15/2007 02:24 AM |
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| I am a SAHM also. I was a working mom till my boy's were about 2 and 1/2 and 6 months old. We never had daycare or anything. We just worked out our work shifts so hubby would be home with them while I worked and then he would go to work while I stayed home with them. Then again I never really got to see my husband. I hated working after I had the boy's and missed them and my husband dearly so we decided after a lot of talk for me to stay home. I haven't regretted it at all. They are now almost eight (in March) and almost six (In Jan.) This was just best for our family but not everyone's family is like mine. |
| posted by Jody on 12/22/2007 10:01 PM |
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| Staying home would be my first choice, but that is not an option. Our son stayed with relatives for the first 2 years which was great. Unfortunately, some things changed and we were faced with the decision to put our son in daycare a few days a week. We found a great Montessory school that has a very nuturing enviroment, and offers web cam which allows me to observe him whenever I wish. The difference I see in him is a child who is secure and very social. He excells on all levels and we could not be happier. We were very lucky to find the school he is in now, and have decided to continue at least through Kindergarten. |
| posted by Meagan on 01/01/2008 11:48 PM |
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| I work PT, only 3 days a week. We're lucky enough to have family watching our 17 month old son during the 3 days I work. I feel secure knowing he's with people who love him as much as we do while I'm working. |
| posted by on 01/30/2008 01:44 PM |
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| I stay home for two reasons. I wanted to be able to be a stay at home Mom, I LOVE being able to be the one to raise my kids. The other reason though is because it makes more since for me to be home. Because of my husbands work schedule, and where we live, I would be paying for gas and daycare, I would rather just stay home and have no money, then work and have no money and no time with my kids. |
| posted by Elise on 02/05/2008 10:28 PM |
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| I stay home now. When we moved we decided that since we know no one around here that I would stay home. Now that I have my daughter I feel like I wont miss anything like I did with my son. I love staying home with them, even though sometimes it is hard. |
| posted by Jessica on 02/27/2008 10:48 AM |
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i am my girl's mama and i have set myself up to be able to raise her and not have to work so i chose to stay home.
this is my job and my life and though it may be exhausting, it is worth it.
this was my choice and my decision |
| posted by shakti mama on 03/19/2008 02:29 AM |
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| I was fortunate and was able to stay home with my son for the first 2 years of his life. Unfortunately, after he turned 2 I had to go back to work. He is enrolled in a wonderful school where he is learning 3 different languages, how to write, numbers, alphabet, etc...not to mention, meeting some wonderful friends. My first choice will always be staying home with him, but since that is not possible I'm so glad we have the ability to send him to the school he is attending. |
| posted by Paige on 04/11/2008 04:54 PM |
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| I stay at home because I couldn't see some one else raising my child and this is all I have wanted to do with my life. I can't wait to have more kids. |
| posted by Anne on 04/21/2008 04:16 PM |
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I work full time and I'm able to work from home part of the time so my son is always with either me or my husband.
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| posted by Sarah on 05/03/2008 08:53 PM |
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| I settle for what i have to,but if it's up to me and I can make things turn for what i think is best, I would have to say day care.I'm not talking about any day care of course.I'm talking about a day care that teaches the child things for there age group.If the child is older then I would do like an after study day care with subtantial kick back time that both helps with home work and lets the child have some down time. |
| posted by Kristy on 05/28/2008 11:29 PM |
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| Our first choice would be for my husband to stay at home but unfortunately that just isn't fesable. However, we are fortunate that our DD could stay with family for her first year. Then schedules changed and we had to find a sitter. We found one that does in-home care and my girl LOVES it there. She has other kids to play with and lots of toys and she learns things. She doesn't want to leave when I go to pick her up. It is fortunate she only has to be there 3 hours a day 4 days a week. |
| posted by Katie on 06/01/2008 10:27 AM |
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| I stay at home. My husband and I share old fashioned values and feel a womans place is taking care of her children, then the husband, then the family. I'm fortunate enough that my husband would do anything and work the lowest of jobs so I can have this oppurtunity (although he doesn't, but if had had to he would). |
| posted by Anne on 06/09/2008 02:39 PM |
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| I am a single mom and work 12 hours a day. My son is in a daycare from the time I take him in the morning until I or his Father picks him up in the evenings. Although I don't like the situation he is very social and loves his daycare and playmates. If given the option to stay home with him, I would in a heart beat! |
| posted by Crystal on 06/14/2008 02:03 PM |
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I have lots of opinions on this subject. For the first 2 1/2 years of my son's life he was in a great home daycare. I worked hard in college and got a degree that allows me to be paid VERY well. I always knew I wanted a career and why would I spend thousands in student loans just to stay home? Never would I have thought that I would stay home with my kids. BUT, I could write a book on BAD in home daycare. So after my experiences, we decided to make a major change in lifestyle (meaning the loss of my income) and have me stay home. This was NOT easy to do. But I dealt with not 1 but 6 home providers that should have lost their liscence.
Now as far as people thinking that putting your kids in daycare is having someone else raise them....it's not. They learn much needed social skills at all ages and it helps when it is time for school they dont screem and cry at the door while you leave. I was critisized alot for working by friends that stayed home. I love being able to stay home now, as most people dont have that choice. In this day and age, I am finding that 2 incomes is almost a necessity.
Just my two cents. |
| posted by Michelle on 07/02/2008 01:35 PM |
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| I prefer to stay at home. Although we could certainly use another income. daycare is just too expensive for 3 kids under the age 5. Plus call me paranoid, but who can you really trust now a days. I am even scared to send my kids to school when they turn 5. Its not just teachers you have to worry about, but other children too. By no means do I want to shelter my children, but we really do live in a very scary world. |
| posted by jessica on 07/04/2008 10:42 PM |
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| the day my son was born my husband and I looked at each other and said "no way can he be with anyone but us" so the next day my husband put in his notice to go part time and i worked M-F till noon and my husband worked from noon on Friday to close and on on Sat and Sun. we definatley had to cut down on the extras but it is SSSOOOO worth it!! |
| posted by ♥Bridget♥ on 07/07/2008 10:33 PM |
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| Staying home is not an option for me. In lieu of this, I prefer a christian childcare center. I don't feel comfortable with home daycares (although I had my own for 7 years in my 20s) because there are so many incidents where children are hurt and there often isn't another person in the house to hold the provider accountable. In a center there are people all around so if a care provider flips out on a child, there are people to witness it and stop it. |
| posted by Kellie on 07/16/2008 10:30 AM |
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| As much as I would love to stay home with my three girls the more and more the price of oil and other things climb the less likely I am going to be able to stay home. Right now I have no choice but to stay home we can't afford for me to work, by the time we paid for child care and I worked out my time at work with hubby and oldest at school and paid for gas I would have to work everyday and make at least 20-25 an hour. or do part time on hubby's days off never see him and with both give up on my school and work at the Fire Department. If I had a choice I would want someone I trusted and loved like a sister or another child to come to my house and spend time with them and not to think of it as a job! |
| posted by Ruth on 08/13/2008 11:31 PM |
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| I would have to say i woild rather stay at home than let stangers watch my children even though 4 are in school and one at home me and my husband talked about it and there was a time when i had to work and i did not enjoy it because i was so tired when i got home i had no engery or time for my husband our my kids so i stay at home now and would never change it for anything in the world. I do understand that it does not work out for everyone but we beleive if you can then you should. |
| posted by Amber on 09/01/2008 12:55 PM |
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we decided that i would stay at home since there was ne reason for me to have to go to work |
| posted by Rebecca on 09/28/2008 02:55 PM |
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I think the best option, when financially possible, is for one of the parents to stay home with the child(ren).
That way, you as their parent can see to their emotional needs, and educational development as you see fit. When someone else watches your child, you have no control over how they spend their time.
I think Daycare or preschool is a good option as well though, because kids learn social skills and structure. |
| posted by Bethany on 10/25/2008 05:33 PM |
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| I stay home now and work two day out of the week, my husband stays at home with him those days. But if I have to pick one of them I have to say I'll put him in daycare. My husband is military and we have no family close to us. |
| posted by vivian on 10/30/2008 07:44 PM |
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| I am currently a stay at home mom, and by march my husband will be a stay at home dad as well, so our son will have two full time parents!! |
| posted by Amber on 11/07/2008 01:53 PM |
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| I am a stay at home mom as well. I was to return to work after my 6 weeks were up, I lasted an hour then been home ever since and that was 3 years ago. I do attend cosmetolgy school for 3 hours at night, but he is with his dad. When my son starts school I will start work simple as that. |
| posted by Rena on 12/10/2008 11:31 PM |
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| I prefer to take care of them myself and with my husband but if I had to have someone else care for them I choose my grandparents and my husbands parents. |
| posted by Heather on 01/06/2009 05:37 PM |
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| DH and I prefer to know who is watching our kids and to know that how they do things are close to what we would do. When we were still in So Cal my grandparents watched the boys while I worked part time. Since moving the only people we know are my dad and he works 40+ a week and so can not watch my boys so I stay home, that way I know what they are doing and that they aren't being allowed to do things I wouldn't let them and that they are treated right! |
| posted by on 01/06/2009 08:30 PM |
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| I think that there are so many components to a decision like this, but for my situation staying home was ideal. My eldest was in daycare from 13 months until 3 1/2 when her sister was 3 months. She was being cared for by my mother until I felt she needed a more social and structured atmosphere. She stayed there at daycare and her sister joined her there at 3 months. Then my daughter was diagnosed with BHS and I was also not satisfied with the way that my daughter was reacting to daycare. She did not like it at all. So I believe that it is a different choice for every family. Everyone has different situations and different needs. If a good daycare is available that you trust and etc. I think that it is great for kids to get out and spend time away from their parents and socialize with other people. |
| posted by Sarah on 01/06/2009 10:12 PM |
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| There is nothing more special than watching your child grow and develop. |
| posted by Krista on 02/15/2009 10:50 PM |
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| i feel like the fiorst couple months of my ravens development should be influenced by my self and his daddy! not a baby sitter, or even family |
| posted by RavensMommy on 05/10/2009 09:45 AM |
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| My daughter was watched by a friend of ours for the first 2 years of her life. The pay was Ok and I didn't have to pay for when she wasn't there. She is a very social kid and very independent. We then wanted to have another kid so I started watching kids out of our home so I could be home with our kids. Our son is now 3 1/2 and freaks out when I'm not around. I think having my daughter in daycare helped her deal with seperation from us. I wish I would have been able to put my son in daycare (part time) just to get him use to the world outside of our home but I do really enjoy being able to stay home with our kids and watch others too. |
| posted by Kim on 07/31/2009 02:13 PM |
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| I am a Stay at home mom as well |
| posted by hotlilmammi on 03/24/2010 01:48 PM |
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| I would rather raise my kids myself than have someone else do it for me. Every day is a new adventure and it just keeps getting better. My kids feel safe, secure, and of course loved. They can't receive that kind of love from anyone else. " A mother's love... " |
| posted by Keary on 03/29/2010 12:35 AM |
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| i am a stay at home mom and me and my husband decided this because of the cost of day care is high so mostly all the money i would make would be going to day care. but i love my new job even though it gets hard at times but its so worth it in the end |
| posted by Courtney on 10/28/2010 11:19 AM |
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| I stay home with my children, but i chose relative because if i need someone to watch them i only have relatives watch them |
| posted by Jamie on 03/05/2011 06:33 PM |
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| I'm a SAHM. I was a SAHW before and dh and I talked about it before having kids. I read too much in newspapers and see too much on the news to trust a stranger to watch my child. I also worked in a daycare before hubby had his final deployment and I vowed never to put our child in one. |
| posted by mercyphoenix on 02/26/2013 06:09 PM |
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