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Is there Life out There?

I've joined so many mom websites in hopes of meeting new friends and finding playdates for my son. I've been so disappointed that when I search for activity and people who live in and near McHenry County IL that there is no activity. People join, make one post and never return....groups seem to be abandoned. Looks like other cities/towns have very active members. What is it with McHenry county IL???

Have gotten information on a few moms groups in other areas (official groups, with dues, meetings, etc) that are very active....(some too active!) but they all seem geared for kids ages 3 and up. I'm not finding much for toddlers. We do belong to Gymboree, and attend a library reading/play class...and that's fun...for 40 minutes once a week. I feel like a ghost sometimes....the other moms seem to stick to themselves or in their own little cliques. I feel like I simply cannot make a connection with someone...or make a new friend.

Is there anyone else out there who feels like me? Anyone else searching for a mom-friend...someone who understands, who listens, who likes to laugh...who has an only-child and wants to get together with another mom/toddler so their child has some social interactions...and they can have an adult conversation and pass the day faster?

Help! Is there Life Out There????

See also: McHenry County, Illinois, Toddlers, Friendship, Support, PlayDates, Playgroups, SAHM, Groups,

Written by Angela

Posted on 12/16/2009

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Hi Angela. I too have joned so many groups on the internet but have not had any luck connecting with anyone in my area. We're lucky enough to be able to join Fastrackids and The Little Gym each for one class per week, but it seems like people are just into their own thing or their own clicks. Being an older mom also(I'm 42now) has made it even more difficult for me. So youre not alone in not being able to find friendships in your local area. I guess we both need to be strong, patient & keep trying. I welcome your emails any time. Patricia.mom to Kamran & Jaeda (3 years old) in brooklyn,ny

posted by patricia on 02/26/2010

I totally can relate to you. Especially being a very young mom, it seems like no one wants to approach me. I've tried chat rooms and mom blog sites and never connected on any of those. I recently moved, and in my old town, there were no baby places or classes or entertainment of any kind. maybe it'll be different where i am now. feel free to chat with me. my LO is a year almost

posted by Kayla on 03/01/2010

I have found mom groups locally via Meetup.com - and am starting to make lots of friends - I really recommend trying it out. You can even start your own Meetup group or groups on many mom websites....it's worth stepping outside your comfort zone and trying!

posted by Angela on 03/01/2010

Check and see if you have a" Parents As Teachers" Provider in your area, they may be able to connect you with groups. They are on the Web

posted by Playgroups & More on 04/15/2010

It is really hard to connect with other moms. I don't know why I thought that somehow after I had kids that I would just magically have all of these great mom friends. We'd go to the park together, share stories about our kids, complain about how tired we are. It's not really like that. Even when I do go somewhere where there are other moms everyone is so busy chasing after their kid or trying to get them to eat, etc. that no one really talks to eachother. I haven't had a good "friend" conversation in years. Let me know if you ever want to chat. I'd love to make friends with other moms.

posted by Huniya on 04/18/2010

I had such a hard time finding moms with kids near the ages of my kids AND wanted to go out and be active - so I started my own group. It grew really quickly since we had a super active calendar, I had it on Meetup actually. Recently I've given up on collecting dues from members and am moving to Raising Them since Yahoo Groups isn't formatted as well. Free is sure nice! I have to admit, we are far too busy running after our kids to actually develope a face to face relationship so there aren't any clicks in my group. We usually email each other or have adult time together with MNO's.
My advice, start your own group if you can't find one that fits you - your not alone, you just feel that way...promise!

posted by Danyelle on 05/13/2010

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