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my four year old grandson recently has started aiming at things while peeing rather than peeing in the toilet! I only raised one boy but have never even heard of this behavior before.

I thought it was the cats at first and just kept cleaning up. He has been aiming at the wastebasket, cat box, sink, floor, etc..

A few weeks ago he said he needed privacy and started closing the door while he went potty. None of us thought anything of it. Then his mom went in to do her hair and there was pee all over the sink and the wall above the sink. She and I both spoke with him and I really thought he understood and would stop the behavior, but this morning he peed all over the window and wall next to the toilet.

HELP?????

See also: potty training, pee, 4 year old,

Written by deb

Posted on 11/08/2008

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WOW. I know I would be livid if my son started doing that. He is old enough to know better, and if my son does miss or get some on the floor he will at least wipe it with toilet paper and tell me, so I know to clean it well.
Do you use discipline techniques when he does that? Did you explain how nasty it is? Especially if its on the sink. Maybe telling him that is where he washes his hands and brushes his teeth, and if there is peepee there, then his hands wont be clean and he might get it in his mouth if it gets on his tooth brush and that could make him sick. . . I dont know if that would discourage him, but I know it would my son.
I would strongly suggest Time outs or taking away a priveledge if he continues. He needs to know how serious it is.

posted by Amy on 11/09/2008

I would take away the priveledge of going to the potty alone. Let him know you will be going with him, and every now and then give him the chance to correct the behavior on his own. This is also a good lesson in respect for things. Would he like it if other people peed on his toys? A good way to teach respect is to talk to the child about the effects on HIM. When my son started hitting me I would say " I dont hit you, so please dont hit me" change the words, " I dont pee on your things so please dont pee on mine" (the floor, the cat box, the sink, ect.) Good luck!

posted by valarie on 11/09/2008

we did set the rule the door must remain open, and we do supervise him now. He is a very smart boy who is normally very well behaved.
The living situation here is a bit different as I am the nana and I live with my daughter, son in law and the two boys. We all have very different styles of disciplinging. I wish we could find a united front but it just isn't happening. The father yells at every little thing and lets nothing go. Their mother says "one more time......." over and over and counts to three over and over. I honestly have just given up in doing much at all with them, i like to do crafts but lately they just dont listen anymore.
I have fibromayalgia and am in a lot of pain all the time and just don't have energy I used to have
I told them both this morning things are going to change.

posted by deb on 11/10/2008

Well my son (Devon) is turning 4 at the end of this month and we are having trouble getting him to potty train. I don't understand it. He will do good on some days then others he just don't want to. But to what you posted I caught Devon peeing on my cats playhome and the cat was in it. I didn't know what to think. I was upset I don't understand what would make him do that or what was he thinking. So I can relate. I'm calling the doctor to see what he thinks. A long time ago I read something about this and I can't remember all of what I read but it's not new or just our kids. It was in a parenting magazine so this just must be something some boys do I guess for attention or to see if they can get away with it. Or it's fun to them as gross as it sounds lol I hate writting it but they are young so who knows.

posted by Summer on 10/20/2010

Oh and I can relate on the pain thing I have Chronic Pancreatitisis and paralysis and it is so hard keeping up on young ones. And when they make it harder it doe's make it bad for us. I wonder tho if it's him seeing me sick is the reason he acts out. It can't be easy on him. He worries about me and that makes me sad he is only going on 4 he should have no worries.

posted by Summer on 10/20/2010

I'm not sure if this will help, but my mom said that when she was potty training my brother, she would put a couple cheerios in the toilet for him to "aim" at or some drops of food colouring so he could turn the drops different colours with the pee. maybe that will help him realize that he can aim INTO the toilet.

posted by Melissa on 11/01/2010

I would make him clean up the mess.

posted by Julie on 01/17/2011

Viva la vita!. What a character. Why does he insists in making the process so different? Someone needs an intensive training. First I would try to anticipate his need to use the bathroom. Then I will take him out for a walk and let him pee outside. I will also take him to public places, stores, park district even church or friends house to teach him that he needs to start using the toilet. Then, I will take him home and see if he has learned the lesson. If not, I will keep doing it until he gets the message. Marie.

posted by Maria on 02/21/2011

I cannot tell you more then how I taught my boy to not pee on everything well my boy is autistic and he love to pee everywhere on everything I would go in with him as like a punishment if he did it once and I would hold it for him till he learned that he only goes in the potty I still do it sometime he still trys every once and a while he will try to pee on his wall he thinks it's a game to see how high that he can pee

posted by jessica on 02/03/2015

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