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Feeling really sad

I want to share my story and would appreciate some advice and comments. I am a single mom. I am raising 2 teen girls. They are 15 and 16. I love my daughters very much. I am very devoted to them. I don't have a social life because i prefer to spend all my time with them. Even though am only 32. The problem started when they were born, I would buy them everything, till this day i spoil them alot. I kinda feel they deserve it because they are obedient and get good grades A&B's. I lost my job 3 months ago, because of a company downsize, and am a little down. But I can't help to feel very sad because they don't appreciate what i do for them. I don't see any consideration from them towards me. They never ask me how am doing or how do i feel. Yet am still doing alot for them financially being unemployed. I just want a little consideration . Do you guys have any advice? Or have gone threw a similiar situation?

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Written by Vivian

Posted on 05/15/2008

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Gee, I wish I could really help you, I feel for you. However I think you should tell them how you feel, but in a nice way like start your sentence It make me feel when you don't or when you ect...Maybe come to an agreement on getting a little less of what they want. Chin up things will get better a better job will come along soon.

posted by Amber on 05/16/2008

I am new here. I am from Miami, Florida. Thanks for your advice and words of encouragement. I will try that approach towards the girls. Your son is so cute and adorable.

posted by Vivian on 05/16/2008

I think that your girls are probably intelligent and old enough for reality. Take them to a coffee shop, or other favorite public place, and have a chat. Tell them about the financial reality that you face. Tell them some things that you have to give up and be sensitive as you talk to them about your needing to cut back spending on them. Do they receive an allowance? Babysit for money? Part-time jobs? Think about your budget and come up with a plan. Come together and be open & honest at this time. Stick to your guns and be the parent…you’ll get through this!
Blessings, Emily

posted by emily on 05/16/2008

Thanks for your support and advice emily.

posted by Vivian on 05/16/2008

Your post just caught my attention & I really don't know how to help since my little one is just a year & a half but I just want to say that I feel for you & I hope that everything becomes better for you... Try talking to your kids too... they might understand you a little bit more & be more sensitive to your needs as well when you know what you're going through. God bless!

posted by April on 06/30/2008

I agree, your daughters are intelligent & old enough for reality. I hope you shared your financial dilemna with them, and let them know how they could help. I hope that things got better, and things have worked out for the best! God Bless.

posted by Renee on 09/09/2008

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