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| Tantrums!!!! |
 My 2 year old son is the baby of the family and our last child. He's been throwing fits like you wouldn't believe! He screams at the top of his lungs, slams doors, and even kicks and hits the walls. I've tried just about everything, corners, time outs, naps, everything! Is anyone or has anyone went through this? He tells us we are mean and tells his father "I'm telling mom". It is getting to be to much! I don't know what else to do, it's starting to frusterate me to no end! I just want him to calm down and use is words to express his feelings, not throw an all out tantrum. Any ideas? I will try just about anything at this point, please someone, help! |
| See also: toddler, boy, tantrums, fits, screaming |
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| My son used to do the same thing. We started putting him in his room and shutting the door. We just let him scream it out and calm down. We would tell him that "he was free to scream but we weren't going to listen". As soon as he calmed down he would be allowed out and that would be the end of it. It seemed like he just needed to be able to scream out his frustrations to calm himself down. Since he didn't get an audience his tantrums got shorter and shorter until he hardly has them anymore. Good luck! The worst part for me was listening to him scream. |
| posted by Andrea on 10/24/2007 |
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Tantrums at this age usually happen because he is frustrated that he can't express himself, can't tell you what he wants, or is tired or hungry. Try to notice what happens right before the tantrum so you can begin to anticipate when it is going to happen, and try to prevent it. When he gets upset, instead of telling him to use his words, give him the words he needs. "You are angry because it's time to clean up for lunch." Validate his feelings. "It's ok to be angry." Tell him that hitting, kicking, screaming, etc are not ok. Give him something he can do to express his anger, like stomp his feet, for example. Give him a 5 or 10 minute warning when a transition is going to happen. Give him choices whenever possible, but only choices you can live with so you don't end up telling him no. "I know you want to keep playing. It is lunch time. You can play more after lunch. Would you like chicken nuggets or tuna?" This way you acknowledge his feelings, then guide him into the transition. The choice will help him feel independent, and hopefully be attractive enough to get his attention.
This will not work every time, and it may not work the first time. Keep trying and be consistent. |
| posted by Marcia on 10/24/2007 |
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| Welcome to the terrible twos and this too shall pass. My son isn't two yet but when he does turn two, I'll be the one asking for help then. |
| posted by Chelle on 10/24/2007 |
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