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getting kids to do something they don't want to do

I have one that always feels she needs to be in control. She is 9. She is just beginning to realize that temper tantrums and such only get her more trouble. She is beginning to understand logical solutions. The real frustrating part is at school and away from home she is a "model citizen". Every teacher she has had raves about how good she is. Her brother on the other hand, will do anything to not get into trouble. He is 11.

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Written by Joette

Posted on 10/04/2007

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I feel your pain and i am sorry but have no solution to offer you. You can read my post under 'angy child' or 'child aggression' and see if we are going through something similar.

posted by Carissa on 05/06/2009

Well, this is a hard age for kids now a days. Our generation aquired hormones at much later ages but todays children are getting their cycle at age nine. Your daughter may be struggling a little bit with the beginning stages of puberty and does not know quite how to handle. Dont let up, kids at this age need your "iron fist" now more than ever. Dont be judgemental but still be firm. It sounds like her "spicy" attitude might make her a go getter in this tough world. So dont always present it to her as being a negative trait, show her how she can turn aggression into an authoritative strength that will work for her. Is it possible that you show her too much lenience in any area because of deep down feeling you may have that you might have to make up for a shortcoming in some other area.

posted by Brandy on 05/07/2009

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