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| Summer woes |
| Summer has hit my daughter big time. She seems bored. I try to do different activities with her, going to the library, the mall, the pool (which we actually try to do every day) and hanging with friends, but she still seems bored. She is starting to act out/up. Being an only child, she tends to get a lot of attention as well as what she wants, sometimes. She is spoiled in a sense that she does have a lot of things, a lot of attention and of course, a lot of love. She's not as spoiled as others though. We don't give her everything she wants and she can't do everything she wants to. We're trying to teach her responsibility around the apartment, manners (which seems to have slipped away) and to accept what we say. She does fairly well with the responsibility around the apartment and her manners are slowly coming back (yea!!), but she does not like the word "no." Lately if I say no to her she will flip out, throwing a tantrum, hitting at me, yelling in my face and even spitting at me. Her 7th birthday is coming up and she is not having a friends party. It breaks my heart because there really isn't anyone her age here at the apartments, but she has to learn that her behavior has consequences. My mom thinks that she's bored because of no friends her age. I agree and plan on doing everything in my power to make sure that it doesn't happen next summer. I have her enrolled in 2 camps, though they happen later in the summer. My parents are coming to visit in 3wks and then we're traveling up to visit them. Our old house had children on the street. We lived on the corner of 2 culd-de-sacs (sp?) so I felt okay letting her just go out an play with the neighborhood kids. There's nothing like that here. All there is a parking lot with cars going too fast. It's hard on her. It's hard on me. |
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Are you not having a birthday party as a punishment for her behavior?
If you move in a new places she must feel uprooted and angry because she lost her base.that is why she has no entousiasm for any activity.
Can you take her to have playdate with her old friends or you move to a different city?
She seems upset and maybe you should go deep in understanding the cause.
pia |
| posted by pia on 07/03/2007 |
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Yes, her friend party was taken away from her as a punishment. We are still having a family party because I don't want her to think that her birthday isn't important. It was taken away when nothing else would worked. I had taken tv, computer and something else before I resorted to taking away her party. She had it taken away on a Wednesday, but when she calmed down and we talked, I told her that if her behavior improved then she would have the party. It didn't. She continued to yell, hit, spit and carry on when told "no" or "not now."
We moved here in February. Not only are we in a different city, but a different state. I understand that she's missing her friends and everything. We email and send letters. Unfortunately, they don't return any and that hurts her. She has some friends here that we have had playdates with and it has gone well, but they are on vacation for the next 2 weeks. When they return we will be going to my parent's for a week.
Another issue is her sleep. It goes in phases. Some weeks she constantly calls me or wakes up in the middle of the night. I have to cuddle with her every night, which isn't too bad. She's one of those kids that needs X amount of sleep at night or forget it the next day. I understand that it effects her mood and attitude and try hard not too get overly upset or angry when I know it's because she's tired. Though, she does need to start learning that, even when you're tired there are things you have no choice but to do (going with me to the post office or to do laundry).
This move was tough on all of us and we're all still adapting. I know that she will be fine once school starts again. This summer just seems tougher than last. Thanks for your comments. |
| posted by Nikki on 07/05/2007 |
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