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| Hello everyone,
I'm a single mother of two boys, 12 and 2 years old. I'm finding it extremely difficult to reenter the dating world. Some men want to sleep with me within the first few dates and when I say no they disappear. Others slowly pull away after they find out that I have two children. This is strange to me because we appear to be having a great time getting to know each other. Of course being the upfront and honest person I am I let them know that I am raising two children alone. Again this is usually where the relationship ends. It has become an extremely painful experience for me. My worry is that there are a vast majority of men that chose not to date single moms. Should I give up or just postpone this portion of my life until my children are older? Any advice welcome. Thanks |
| See also: need to vent, venting, frustrated, frustration |
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Hi Keshia,
the fact you have two children to raise it is a main part of your life, so whoever you date either embrace that part or really there is no place for him. Maybe, you should mention your situation very early in the conversation so that the person knows right away what is your situation and can behave accordingly.
On the other hand I understand how someone can feel burdened by dating a person with an entire family. Having said that, there are some men who wants to have only fun, but others who look for stability and a responsable partner. It is a matter of finding someone belonging to the second group.
In a way it is healthy that you want to date and continue your life, in another way you just can't do it with the same freedom and attitude than you did when you were childless.
Good luck!
Vero
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| posted by Vero on 04/01/2007 |
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