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| Family can be caring and wonderful but let's be real sometimes there are just too much. I feel I spent a good part of my life setting boundaries especially since the kids were born. Somehow, I feel all the personal issues are conveyed through talking about the kids education or behavior. How hard is it to tell everybody to mind their business?
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| See also: need to vent, venting, frustrated, frustration |
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| Been there..and don't want to go back. There is no tactful way to tell family to "mind their business". At least not my family. They are great and supportive now that I don't live with them but when my 5 yr old and I moved in after my divorce, they spoiled her to the point where it undermined my authority. I just had to move out and now we all get along great! |
| posted by Christine on 02/22/2007 |
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| There is just one person I wish I could tell to mind their business and that is my mother in law. she is great when it comes to needing advice but she pretty much acts like she is my son's mother, she feeds him candy and pizza when I just have said that I want him to eat more food, he is almost 15 months and weighs about 35 pounds! We live with her but she has 6 other kids that she needs to be a mother to. He know throws fits when I don't give him what he wants because grandma always gives him his way, and it makes me so mad because she laughs when she sees it! |
| posted by nadya on 07/17/2007 |
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| i get along great with my in laws. its my parents that i cant seem to set the boundries with. i live a block from them. the hosue we baught was in our budget and it just happen to be right nex tot them. i can literally see on their porch when im on my porch. i didnt really get along great with them before we had our daughter, so its not great now. they think they can come over anytime they wnat whether its 8 am or 8 pm. ella was colicy when she was a newborn so evening visits were a no no. they would make her more cranky when there were ppl coming over after a certain time. and they would come over anyways and it jsut got on our nerves. now during the day my dad thinks he can come over whenever jsut because i stay home with her. its gotten to the point where he wont even knock anymore. which drives me NUTS!! when i tell them no you cant come over or dont come over so late, or hey, knock when you come ove atlest. my dad says, "next time ill just make an appointment with you then" and he says it in a tone to make me feel guilty. i almost wanht hiim to sya it to me again so i can say, "ok, call and make an appointmet then, it would be much easiuer then." how do i set boundries without making them feel bad? |
| posted by Devon on 07/17/2007 |
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