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Not easy to stay home all day, it really makes a lot of difference if you have few playdates. It is a good way for kids and parents to take a break from each other and interact with their own kind (and size)!
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| posted by Vero on 02/18/2007 |
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| I agree however I don't have any friends in the area, just family. I would love to interact with other parents around here--anyone in the Long Beach, CA area? |
| posted by Christine on 02/18/2007 |
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I'm surprised there are not more topics like this out there. About 6 months ago, I tried to search Stay at Home Mom depression. I have never had depression issues but I was feeling so angry and depressed. I don't know the answer. I also run a business from my home (www.mommysupplies.com) so I will throw myself into my work and then I have guilt about not doing stuff with the kids. I do have a great circle of friends but I don't get to see them enough (in my mind). Everyone is so busy. I guess the rain in Portland during the winter doesn't help either.
Summer seems to help. Nothing better than a little fresh air and sun to brighten a day. :cool: |
| posted by Jamie on 02/28/2007 |
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| I am a first time SAHM for my 2 young boys. I almost can't take it some days. I also have searched for stay at home mom depression sites, and there just isn't much out there. I am looking for a home based business, but can't seem to get going. That worries me, I've always been a go getter. Now I sit on the couch all day reading or watching TV, just waiting for the kids to get home. I'm in a new state, since my husband was relocated, and I am not adjusting well. If I didn't have the computer, I don't know what I'd do all day. |
| posted by Michelle on 03/02/2007 |
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| If you have some time during the day, my best advice to you is that you should work out! At least try some yoga or some meditation, just to find yourself again ( we tend to forget who we WERE before 2 kids...) 1 hour a day just dedicated to YOU only, take some time to groom, pamper, have a great lunch, turn your computer OFF and enjoy a moment of CALM (how often can to hear NOTHING???) |
| posted by elia on 03/02/2007 |
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| Thank you for the input. Just hearing (reading) it from others sometimes give us the push we need. The day usually begings with productive plans, but again I don't usually get around to them. I know it's up to me to get up off my butt and build my life here and I need to do it now so my kids can continue to have the healthly happy home atmosphere they are used to and deserve. Not to mention, my marriage and my own life happiness. |
| posted by Michelle on 03/02/2007 |
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Hi Christine and the others,
I can relate I m a SaHM as well of a 2 year old son. As I am so greatful to be home with him the lack of social interaction is difficult. I tend to watch QVC alot it makes me feel alive LOL. But I love my life and son and being with him and just glad the spring is coming being outside with kids is so much less BLAH then being stuck in the house.
From Jersey anyone else ??
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| posted by laura on 03/17/2007 |
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OMG, I know exactly how you feel. I didn't have any married friends in my area, nor did I have any friends with children. My single friends all went their happy little way and so I became depressed being a SAHM (which should have been the most beautiful and exciting time). Well, I didn't have any friends with children and didn't know anyone with children...until I created my own SAHM play group in my area. I thought, what do I like doing the most..."I love being with my baby, meeting other parents, and I like to coordinate events", so why not do this...
Now, I have lots of friends in my area; married with children. I love my group and the woman are bright, happy, and family-oriented !!!! I created a web page that's fun and very active, filled with fun play dates, MNO, Hubby talk, and so much more. We meet up once a week (use to meet up twice but it was getting too hectic and everyone is part of at least one or more groups in the area). We also have a chat room for moms that don't live in our vicinity (Sugar Land, Texas) and just want to have some adult conversations with other SAHMs (this is a must especially if your DH works lots of hours and all you have is your baby to talk to).
You should think about doing that. Either start your own, if you are not happy with the other groups in your area, or find one that fits your schedule and that would be beneficial for your kid. There are lots of web boards that are FREE (you should never ever pay for a play group or web page) with decent support staff. It may change your life. Don't feel depressed. There are a lot of us SAHMs that go through the very same thing you did. It's a big transition and no one can say that they were happy the very first day. Your body and mind goes through so much when you have a baby. It's a lot to endure. That's why you need that support system.
Take care and if you want to chat more...email me or you can visit my web page at
[url]http://sugarlandsahms.bravehost.com[/url]. We'd love to have you be a part of our dynamic group!!!! :kiss: |
| posted by Sugar L... on 04/04/2007 |
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Wow- I wish I would have joined this website earlier, it would have been very handy. I am a SAHM as well, of 2 girls age 7 years old and 15 months. Lately I have been having the same feelings of depression as well and can't get motivated to do anything. It is hard for me to find other moms in my area that aren't already overly involved in groups (pretty clique-y here in The Woodlands, TX) and have kiddos with a somewhat similar age spread like mine. My problem is that joining other groups- they want to meet in the afternoon after their kids have napped. Well, I can't meet because I have to be home to pick one up from school. It is so frustrating! It is nice to know that others feel the same way that I do. Skye from Sugarland, wish you lived closer!! Do you know of anyone up here in The Woodlands area???
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| posted by Jennifer on 05/25/2007 |
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yes i feel the same as you ladies. jennifer wished i live closer to you -am 4hrs away in crowley, tx. i am new to area also and the few women i've met with kids similar in age also seem too overscheduled/busy to add in a new friend. i feel pretty much in limbo and it is not fair to expect my husband to discuss things the way i do with girlfriends-he just doesn't GET IT you know?
Maybe we should start a HAVE U MOVED RECENTLY group? LOL.
Check out my posting re:new playgroup. i would love your opinion. |
| posted by Andrea R. on 05/26/2007 |
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| Yes! I had a really hard staying home at first then I joined a moms group and that helped. You just need to find something that will get you out of the house at least one day a week. I so looked forward to Wednesdays because I knew that I would have a break and adult conversation too! |
| posted by Jessica on 05/27/2007 |
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| I am a 24 yr. old stay at home mom of 2 boys (2 & 3), It is so hard sometimes. My husband works 10-12 hr., usually 6-7 days a week (he's a crane operator), so we don't have any "getaway" time. I would love to be able to have friends to talk to that have kids, especially boys! I live in Orange, Tx. if anybody's out there. |
| posted by Kari on 06/23/2007 |
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| I am a 38y/o stay at home mom. I have been home with both kids since having my son in 8/06. During this time we were new to our city Terre Haute, IN and It was just me and the kids because my husband had to work so much. It has been really tough at times feeling very low but I am starting to feel better. My daughter and I attend a kindermusik class together once a week which is great and we are starting to meet other people. I would really like to meet another mom or mom's to socialize with form our own playgroup etc. Anyone in Terre Haute let me know. |
| posted by Kim on 06/27/2007 |
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| WHAT DOES SAHM SATND FOR??? |
| posted by leila on 08/20/2007 |
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Leila - I didn't know for the longest time either - it stands for Stay At Home Mom - SAHM.
I have been home full-time with no work at all for 1 year now. I have found it to be the toughest year of my life! LOL! When we had 2, I worked from home, but now with 3 kids there is no way - I can barely get through the regular stuff of the day much less anything else.
Now that the baby is almost 18 months old and (mostly) sleeping through the night (he had eating issues and woke up every night for the first 15 months) I feel like my head is above water, but I was depressed and even took meds for a while, but they didn't really help. I think I was just exhausted. I am looking forward to school starting - just as a source of structure. That is my biggest problem - I am not good at sticking to a routine. I see the day all wide open with no "plans" outside the home and I just sort of drift through the days. Not good. As I said, it has gotten better as the baby has gotten older over the past 6 months or so. But the boys (ages 9, 4 and 18 months) are pretty spread apart in age so I feel like I am jumping from one "level" to another like a crazy person.
I love to meet new people, but I can use socializing as a way to avoid doing the boring necessities of housework too.....
What do others do in terms of a schedule or a weekly plan? Do you have certain days for housekeeping/shopping etc? How much of a schedule or routine do other SAHM's follow? Just curious.... |
| posted by Karen on 08/20/2007 |
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| anyone that live in the virginia area that would want to get together for playdates. let me know |
| posted by chantel on 08/31/2007 |
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| Hello everyone that are SAHM's. I am new to this site. I am glad I found it I am hoping to find contacts and friends that I can relate to. I am 37 years old and have a 2 year old son. A month after he was born I moved to Montana and I have not been able to find any friends or stay at home moms with kids his age or my age. My boyfriend drives truck over the road and is gone at long stretches at a time from 3-6 weeks so it gets very frustrating with a 2 year behavior and struggling for adult conservations. I have a sister that lives here too but she works all the time and her boys are lots older and we have different interests. I can't wait to find friends on here. Hope to hear from someone soon. |
| posted by Amy on 11/09/2007 |
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| hi evey1 iam a sahm also and it is sooo hard i have 3 kids and 1 on the way my hubby and i just moved from california to colorado so if anyone out there that want to just have fun and girl's night's out let me know i would love that :) |
| posted by charmaine on 11/10/2007 |
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| Hi everyone, I am a SAHM too and yes, it is hard being cooped up all day. Its nice to know that Im not the only one feeling down. It is winter and we're lucky to see the sun at all this week. I have 2 boys in elementary and 1 in preschool and I also have a job that I do from home home but Im just feeling really blah just not getting out with friends enough can be really tough with these long gray winters. It would be nice if some of you lived close so we could get together and have a moms night out, but of course we are all scattered all over the country! |
| posted by Jill on 01/16/2008 |
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| That is the reason that I wanted a stay at home business, I still interact with adults and it keeps my mind from going to mush. I just need to keep my mind busy. |
| posted by Erin on 02/14/2008 |
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Karen
I really do have to follow a schedule give or take 15 min. We wake at about 7:30 between 7:30 and 8:30 I get my oldest two ready for school, they leave at 8:30 after that we have a morning routine of breakfast, laundry and dishes. We have sensory play right before lunch. Lunch happens around 11:00 and then we nap, the baby takes a nap for about two hours and my daughter has "quiet time". During nap I work on my business some times my daughter helps me. We have a snack when they wake. We then usually do some kind of project, or on Tuesdays and thursdays we go Ice skating. By the time we get done with that the older two come home, they have snack and then homework, on Tuesday evenings my older son does cub scouts and the girls usually bake some kind of goodie, We have dinner around 6:30 after homework is done, the older kids do their chores, dishes from dinner, and laundry, baths. Then it is off to bed and we do it all over again.
Weekends are slack days. Sunday is house cleaning day. All of mty kids help with the chores (with the exception of the 1 year old) that is my schedule. |
| posted by Erin on 02/14/2008 |
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| Yeah, being a SAHM isn't easy. I've never really done it before. I am 44 and have an 8-month-old girl. Before that, I was a single mother for 14 years. My other child is 21! I had been a career person. It's taken some adjusting. Although, I am able to get out two nights a week. My husband watches the baby while I go to work from about 3-7pm. He is very supportive. However, I'm usually alone there. I don't have much adult interaction. I'm looking into joining a gym or mothers group. I had moved to my new community over a year ago. My "work" friends didn't have any young children. I definately, miss the closeness we had. So, take heart, Christine, you're not alone. At least in theory! |
| posted by Darragh on 02/26/2008 |
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I am also a sahm in Houghton Lake,Michigan.
I don't have very much interaction from adults except Church and when my boys are in sports.
It doesn't help that one of our vehicals are down and my dh takes the other to work with him.
I do, however, thank God every day for my mom being here. She has helped me through some tough depression when I lost my part-time job.
I have been at home for 11yrs and thought I had an opprtunity to work part-time at the school. I worked in the kitchen(as a fill-in) and then they let me go and haven't called back since.
Here is Houghton Lake, jobs are extremely hard to come by(especially part-time). I have no friends that stay-at-home and it is getting much harder to stick to routine of chores...
I am adult with ADD and a recovering procrastinator...I need some advice on how to keep my house organized.
We live in a modular home with three bedrooms(one 10x10 that my 8yr and 6yr share...not good) and a shed out back..
Money is tight and no storage...Help! |
| posted by Rebecca on 03/18/2008 |
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| Oh my gosh! I truly felt that I was the only sahm going crazy this winter! I'm so glad spring is around the corner! I've been a sahm for 9 yrs. now to three girls. I just feel like I'm losing myself with each passing year. I've gained 60 lbs. for starters! It's like I've stopped caring about myself (not good, I know)! I grew up in a subburb, but have lived in our rural home for almost 10 yrs. I've not adjusted well to country life and being a sahm (esp. during those long winter months) only makes me feel more isolated as I don't have any nearby friends. I have a wonderful hubby, but he's gone so much due to his work schedule (2nd - 3rd shifts). When he's awake, we're aspleep and vise versa. We don't go out for dates either. I'm frustrated and I feel guilty for having these feelings. |
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