How to tell a grandma times have changed? HELP!! -

How to tell a grandma times have changed? HELP!!

my husband and our kids and i had to move into his parents house for a short time to save money and find better work. ITS BEEN 1 MONTH and i am no longer a parent. i get judged on every little thing i do. i have a 4yr and he's smart, polite, and an all around hyper.lol. and then i have a just turned 3 month old and everything i know by is all out the window. i tell her info from dr.s and then we're both wrong. i give her info from books...then she says...thats outdated!!! i want to throw "what to expect the first yr" book at her and tell her its not the 70's you can't do that stuff anymore but i bite my tongue to not cause trouble. now when my son crys AT ALL she runs to the rescue and i get scolded....i can't breath without hearing about what I'M doing wrong. now i know when we move out everything will be in control again, but i don't want to be left with a beck and call baby just cause she couldn't leave him alone.... the problems i'm already seeing is going to be hard to break and very stressful and my spouse and i argue over this too, he agrees but at the same time don't want to cause trouble either. So now we have to hold our baby for 2 hours just to calm him down from crying, hold him 1hr 1/2 AFTER he's sleeping cause he wakes too easy and then HAS TO sleep with me cuz SHE is afraid of sids. so i'm at the wtf do you need me for stage. cuz all i do now is wash and clean up after her and my boys...i can't even feed him without her snatching him away and "no" is not even heard. Plus now she trying to give him medication and thats boiling my blood!!! now i think he's going through a little teething and defiantly some allergy problems cause of her pets and she's scolding me for letting him get sick and telling me he's too young to teeth. i even told her some babies are born with teeth and she scolded me for even saying such a thing....now i know how some grandparents are annoying and almost deaf to everyone when it comes to know how's. but my stress is up and tension in my bones to the point where i'm not feeling like bothering anymore...and i know thats not right. i'm sorry for rambling but i needed to vent and thanks for listening. so if anyone has any advice or tips to ease the problem what so ever i'm willing to try anything!!!!!!

Written by Lizz

Posted on 12/03/2011

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Breath and ignore as much as you can. Trust your instinct as a mother and raise your children the way you intend.
Just focus your energy in moving out and try not to get stress out by the situation.

posted by Vero on 01/17/2012

Tell her "Back the F off" she will ruin any relationship you might have with the kids, they will not have respect for you

posted by Lynn on 04/12/2012

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