Yes it can affect not only children but also parents. Your child will start showing signs of insecurity and discontentment with his/her surroundings. He/she knows someone will leave the house and depending on the child’s age most children think daddy or mommy abandoned him/her. Children often think that the world revolves around them so everything that happens is one way or another related to them. In many cases children even think that it was their fault his/her parents got divorce. They think their behavior caused mom and dad to separate.  That’s obviously not true.

Most couples think they’ll be together forever but life and unwanted circumstances tend to deteriorate relationships. Consequently, a rupture in the relationship is in some cases the best option. It might not be psychologically healthy for your child to see you and your spouse constantly fighting. The ideal outcome is for the couple to make up and bring stability to their home. However, reality publishes a different story in our homes today and we must face it with the best tools available.

Tips

-Don’t speak negatively about your spouse in front of your child.

-Spend time listening to your child and encouraging him/her to express his/her feelings openly

-Get professional counseling if your child doesn’t seem to open up. Sometimes it requires a stranger for your child to open up. The important thing is for your child to express his/her frustrations instead of using them as an excuse to get angry and do poorly in school.

-Explain to your children in simple terms why you got divorce and teach them little by little to accept it and not be so negative about it.

-Do all you can to help your child cope and when doing so you’ll find out the door for happiness is opened right there in front of your eyes.