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Am I doing whats right?

The father of my son has three other children from two other women, I adore his children as if they were my own, I have noticed that over the years he has made me the sole caregiver to them when they are here. I Cook and clean and play with them solve fights fix baths and set bedtime all while taking care of Jason who at a teething ten months old can be a real handful lol. I also seem to be spending all of my money on the other children while Jason and I go without. Am I wrong for asking for more help from their father?

Written by Krystle

Posted on 01/10/2011

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Hi Krystle - Sorry for taking so long to get back to you. Sometimes I don't get the message that a group member has asked a question. If you don't mind answering a couple of questions, I will see what I can do to help you.

Is the situation at home still on-going? Are you and this man married or living together? Does he have work obligations that keep him away from home or is he just emotionally absent?

You have absolutely every right to expect him to be involved with his children. You said you see his children like they are your own and he may possibly see that too. He may be under the impression that it's the "mom's" job to take full responsibility for the kids. Do you know anything about the home he grew up in? If his mom took that role, then he doesn't know any better and you have to teach him, just like you are teaching the kids.

Hope this helps.

Mary

posted by Mary on 02/25/2011

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