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Over Active 3 year old

I need some ideas of how to get the situation with my daughter under control. She is 3 and will turn 4 in June and it seems that things have become out of control. She is very defiant and refuses to do anything that I ask of her. How do you change this and get the situation under control>? Please help.

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Written by Alicia

Posted on 03/05/2010

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My daughter is the same way and she is also 3 turning 4 in july maybe we could help eachother out. Maybe they need to have fun someday.

posted by Elizabeth on 03/06/2010

My daughter is the same way and she is also 3 turning 4 in july maybe we could help eachother out. Maybe they need to have fun someday.

posted by Elizabeth on 03/06/2010

Hi! I have 3 overactive boys and started a marble in the jar reward system for them. You should read about it, works like a charm for them. useyourmarbles.com

posted by tonya on 03/07/2010

Did You try to make a game out of this.Cleaning room.Who can pick cloth from the floor using feet only and put them in the basket.Eating-as soon as we finish we will play hide and .... and so on.Make it interesting,fun.Hope it will help.

posted by nieshka on 03/19/2010

try a reward system. make something that she really enjoys to do a reward. it works really well. i have a 22 month old son who is VERY active and it works for him.

posted by skittlez on 05/23/2010

What are you asking a 3 year old to do? Whatever it is, make it into a game...

posted by kim on 07/02/2010

I know how you feel, my son is almost three and he is also defiant. I could not possibly make a game out of every single thing in the day to keep him happy. He is not just defiant in cleaning picking up or eating its like defiant in everything... Is this what you mean? I tried the marble in a jar and it did not work well for me, some people it really works well for. I think that some kids just are going to be a little harder to take care of end of story... i wish you luck.

posted by Erica on 07/03/2010

My three year old daughter has tantrums. She is the loudest human I have ever heard. I just recently created a "Tantrum Tree" for her and let her help me make it (she was very proud of it). We hung it in the kitchen so that she sees it all the time. Everyday she can go without a tantrum, she gets to place a sticker on the tree. Once we have filled seven branches (one week) she gets a reward --- she chose cotton candy. We do not keep candy at home, so this is a HUGE treat. We also made four "bad apples" under the tree. She knows that if she gets bad apples, her reward is gone. This seems to be going well. We look at the tree each day & she is proud to see her accomplishments. She can also see the bad apples and understands this is not something she wants. I have let her know that she has control over her behavoir. Her tantrums do not get her any attention either (which is what they are after). She is sent to another room or we just walk away.

posted by Rachael on 08/19/2010

Rachael I think you have given wonderful advice! The reason children react this way is because it is a behavior that has been made and accepted. Kids want to please their parents and have our attention, but what is it costing them to obtain it? Reward and get excited about good behavior and when they are acting up or throwing a tantrum walk away. If it gets out of hand give them a consequence, but there is nothing worse than emptry threats so make sure it is an action you are going to follow through with. :0) I say try the tree! :0) Goodluck

posted by christina on 12/01/2010

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