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Is there Life out There?

I've joined so many mom websites in hopes of meeting new friends and finding playdates for my son. I've been so disappointed that when I search for activity and people who live in and near McHenry County IL that there is no activity. People join, make one post and never return....groups seem to be abandoned. Looks like other cities/towns have very active members. What is it with McHenry county IL???

Have gotten information on a few moms groups in other areas (official groups, with dues, meetings, etc) that are very active....(some too active!) but they all seem geared for kids ages 3 and up. I'm not finding much for toddlers. We do belong to Gymboree, and attend a library reading/play class...and that's fun...for 40 minutes once a week. I feel like a ghost sometimes....the other moms seem to stick to themselves or in their own little cliques. I feel like I simply cannot make a connection with someone...or make a new friend.

Is there anyone else out there who feels like me? Anyone else searching for a mom-friend...someone who understands, who listens, who likes to laugh...who  has an only-child and wants to get together with another mom/toddler so their child has some social interactions...and they can have an adult conversation and pass the day faster?

Help! Is there Life Out There???? Laughing

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Written by Angela
Posted on 12/16/2009
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Oh my, you are SO not alone. I have tried on Babycenter and the site is just too busy and overwhelming. I have been looking for people to chat with in real time and it is hard to find meaningful connections.

I recently joined a playgroup in my area, Richmond VA. I went to my first play date the other day but transportation is a problem for me and I got there after everyone else had left! I felt awful. It was at a "Romp N Roll" so at least my kids could play, but we were the ONLY ones there.

I have returned to raisingthem.com after Vero invited me to be her friend. It was a nice persona touch compared to the generic greetings I received on BabyCenter, that were never followed up.

Hang in there, and I will invite you to be my friend so we can chat some more.

posted by Margaret on 12/18/2009
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! I know, for me, I looked but was kinda scared to reach out.. But after being mostly in the house, with the same routine for almost a year now, I am ready to meet new people, try new things. However, everytime I find somewhat decent groups, they are not In nj. It just seems like I should be enjoying more life... after all i am more than just a mommy.....
posted by marlena on 12/29/2009
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! I know, for me, I looked but was kinda scared to reach out.. But after being mostly in the house, with the same routine for almost a year now, I am ready to meet new people, try new things. However, everytime I find somewhat decent groups, they are not In nj. It just seems like I should be enjoying more life... after all i am more than just a mommy.....
posted by marlena on 12/29/2009
yes!! i almost felt like i was reading my very own diary when i read your post. i have just about joined all the infant parent classes i can find in our area. and it IS fun, for 40-45 minutes. and then it's back to feeling like a ghost. back to the usual strolls to the mall or the park. i tell myself to just hang in there and focus on my child. pretty soon, she'll hit preschool and i wont get to spend as much time with her as i want. but i really do miss being around my girl friends and being part of the workforce. ah, the pains and joys of being a stay at home mom. stay strong and hang in there!
posted by thea on 12/30/2009
When I found this to be the same in my areaI started my own Mommy Group in my area. Then I go to the parents list in my zip code and send everyone an invitiation. Those who would reply would be happy to find someone who actually wants to show up for play dates. I have found many new friends this way keep trying and also when you go to the park take a card with your group playdate web address and your email so they can learn how to join the group.

I have moved a lot and found this is the only way that works for me and my son. hope it helps you.
~Shanelle
posted by Shanelle on 01/23/2010
Thanks Shanelle!
posted by Angela on 01/23/2010
You're not alone! i wonder constantly if there is life out there!! We just moved from NY to NJ, and ive tryed so many playgroup type websites, no response. Its been tough moving and not having any friends or family here. Its good to know im not alone!
posted by Jordana on 03/08/2010
I saw that you are from Ilinois...Check meetup.com I know that Crystal Lake has a meetup group for moms and children in your area. If you would like I'm part of Lake Geneva Area moms and if your in Woodstock...so maybe 30 minutes to meet up with us. Groups in this sight have small fees to pay for access to the website and see what the organizers of your group have organized as playdates...you can also suggest playdates as well. Good luck and you are not alone. You can also start your own group...if you need help with getting the word out in your area let me know I'm the assistent organizer for Lake Geneva Area Moms.
Jen
posted by Jennifer on 03/18/2010
  
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