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ihi angela
i have the same problem with my son i havent found a solution yet but if i do i will let you know ;-) |
| posted by christel on 03/22/2009 |
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| we should start a group!! my ten month old son needs to be held to nap and rocked to go down at night...it's getting very time consuming and draining. i also want him to be able to self soothe. i heard that if you let them cry it out for longer periods each time, they will be much better in just four days. unfortunately mu husband doesn't like the idea at all and our in-laws live above us, so i don't want to wake them up. |
| posted by Melissa on 03/23/2009 |
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| would you let them cry for an extended period of time? or pick them up and them put them back down once they have calmed down?? |
| posted by angela on 03/29/2009 |
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| I have a 28month old and an 8month old. The answer is YES, the only way I was able to get my 28month old to sleep go to sleep and sleep through the night was to finally let her cry it out. I tried the whole "go in every 10min to soothe her" and it just made it worse. It took about 3 nights of her learning how to go to sleep on her own and crying before she slept through the night and I haven't had a problem since. That was when she was 10months old. With my new baby I've always put her down drowsy and occasionally during nap time she has to cry it out, but we've been much more successful. As long as they're older than 4months you can do cry it out and it won't harm them. Good luck! |
| posted by Shana on 03/29/2009 |
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| I totally agree w/ Shana..I did the cry it out w/ my daughter when she was 4 1/2 months and it took about 3 nights, but now I have no problems putting her to bed at night or for naps. It might help to have a security item in the crib w/ them..my daughter's used to be the pacifier but we got rid of it and now she has one of those blankets w/ a stuff animal attached to it. She loves it and won't sleep w/o it. It is hard those first couple of nights, but anybody I've ever talked to who has used the cry it out method has said that it worked...I've never heard otherwise. :) I say - just try it..what can it hurt? :) |
| posted by Emily on 03/31/2009 |
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My son does the same thing. I think he s spoiled! He is now waking 3 hours after I put him down night! So you ladies who let them cry it ot, you mean you can now put them in the crib for naps and night times and walk out of the room? I would be in heaven if my son would do that!
What time do you put your babies to bed? I put mine down at 8 and he usually wakes up at 10:30...then, of course, I have to hold him until he falls back asleep! |
| posted by Jenn on 04/10/2009 |
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hey jenn, try this:
since he usually wakes up at 10:30, stand at his door quietly at around 10:15 and wait until you hear him start to cry. go to his crib and put your hand on his back and speak calmly to him and use his name, the word you use for yourself(mommy) and your cue word for bedtime (night night, sleep time, beddy bye) I did this for my son and sometimes it works, I think he's getting used to it. sometimes they aren't totally awake, but the longer they cry, it wakes them up and then you may have to pick him up and use all that time and energy trying to rock him to bed. I also envy the mothers who put their babies down drowsy and walk away:) |
| posted by Melissa on 04/11/2009 |
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| if your baby wakes up during the night to you nurse him back to sleep? or let him cry it out..? |
| posted by angela on 05/03/2009 |
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| hey angela, when my son wakes up during the night, I usually am able to rock him back to sleep and put him back in his crib. if he wakes up very frequently or if he doesn't seem to be sleepy at all, nursing him to sleep in our bed is my plan zzzzzzz! :P |
| posted by Melissa on 05/05/2009 |
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| Have you tried a pacifier? Babies have to cry sometimes I think your IL'S hubby will just have to understand and be supportive unless they plan to start lactaiting and nursing him themselves. GOODLUCK. |
| posted by Brandy on 05/06/2009 |
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| my son needs to be nursed to sleep also, and hes 5 months old, i used to put him in my bed to fall asleep, but im looking for a new and easy way to making him fall asleep...lol |
| posted by RavensMommy on 05/10/2009 |
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| crying is the only thing that worked for us. it took 3 nights and she was sleeping all night. in bed at 8 and if she woke up at night, unless it was a cry that was urgent, i didnt go in. at all! i dont agree with going in at all unless you feel they are hurting or somithgn that needs assistanst. that will just teach them that if they cry you will come in and rub their back or whatever. jsut let them cry. its hard, but you will be greatful when you are getting a full nights sleep. and its good for htem to learn how to do it themsleves. |
| posted by Devon on 07/29/2009 |
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| I am a mother of 4 the youngest is 11 now and I had the same problem with my first.The first is the worst because who knows what they are doing.I made the mistake of nursing him to sleep or rocking him.They need to be able to get themselves to sleep.In australia there is an author called Dr Chris Green he wrote several books perhaps you could use the net to find them in one of his books...the most well known is toddler taming ...he decribes a technic called controlled crying not cruel at all you just put them down let them go for about 5 mins then go back give them a rub or the pacifier and then leave most important NO SPEAKING no noise what so ever just reassure them.then go back in 6 mins and so on extending the time gradually.the crying can be distressing especially to new first time mums but believe me it is worth it my sone was 6 months old and he responded in 1 day. my twins were only 4 weeks old when we did this with them as advised by by health nurse the responded within 1 day also I would feed them one at a time in the night time in the dark and so talking to them or lights on and they would go straight back to sleep.please feel free to send me questions I think you need more older experienced mothers to talk you through it.I had some around me friends with older kids and that helps heaps. |
| posted by Tracey on 08/28/2009 |
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