Should I date? -

Should I date?

Ok, I'm 32 years old, a single mom and have the most wonderful 7 month old baby girl. I also have a very good job and am trying desperately to balance being a mommy and spending quality time with my baby and also being a good employee. I have a genetic ability to look at any group of men and pick the one pathetic loser in the group, fall in love and then enable this loser to be everything he should not be. I obviously am not intelligent enough to know how to prevent myself from getting pregnant. So not dating is a good form of birth control. My girl friend says I should get out and date, maybe find Mr. Right. Not overly confident right now and I feel like crap for even working when I have a baby....dating when I should be spending quality time with my baby! eek! certainly a candidate for worst mommy of the year. Guidance, support or ?? desperately needed. Also, if any of you know any "good men" in the Seattle area....send them my way.

See also: Career, baby, single mom........dating?

Written by georgie

Posted on 02/27/2009

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Well I may not be your age but I know where you are coming from. I had my son Dallas when I was 19. He is the best thing that ever happened to me. His father and I were together for 2 and a half years, engaged, ready to marry, when I found out he was cheating. I left him. My son was 1. It was hard. Then I met my daughters father. Same story. CHEATER!!! After two kids, two rings, and a whole lot of heartbreak I gave up. I had my daughter last January. She was and still is beautiful. It took me until August of this last year to find someone and to be honest I wasnt looking. I mean what guy wants a 22 year old with two kids by two dads? Well he found me. I didnt find him. It was hard because I was working and taking care of two kids. Its not an easy thing to do. However it is not fair to you that you shut out the chance for your prince charming. After all I have been through I never thought that I would feel love twards a man. I was wrong. He helped me become a better mom and person. My only advice is take it slow. Do what feels right. Leave the baby out of it until you are sure he isnt the dork that we all find in the bar! lol. Best of luck. Here if you need a friend!

posted by Amanda on 03/17/2009

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