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My husband is walking on thin ice!

hi...I have a question involving husbands. We have an 8 month old very active little boy and my husband is always either working, going to martial arts lessons or playing video games. I feel like he only plays with our son when he's in a good mood and then passes him to me when ever he needs something. We just moved recently so I don't really know anyone my age here or any moms to connect with...that was my reason for joining this site. I was just wondering if any other moms had the problem of their husbands always having something else to do and if there's anything that can be done to make him see what I'm going through.

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Written by Melissa

Posted on 02/18/2009

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Hi Melissa!

It's hard for me to give advice when I don't really know you guys, but I can tell you that I went through a little of what you are going through when I had my first child.

I don't know if you are like me, but I had the "super-woman" thought process. I thought only I could do it right and I had to do everything. This caused me husband to take the "laid back" approach because he knew that if he did it, I would jump in and finish it or just do the entire thing myself. Well, I just ended up being over tired and angry at my husband for mot helping me. Things have changed since then and we have two children and he helps with everything!

What changed? I sat him down and nicely told him that I needed help. The kids were created by the both of us and we BOTH needed to raise them together. I stopped trying to be super mom and learned that it was OK to ask and sometimes beg for help!

I would just sit your husband down and tell him how you feel. Explain to him that you don't get to have "you" time like he seems to have. Ask him to help out more and change his schedule around so that the three of you can have more family time.

When all things fail...prayer works great too!!

Good luck!
Michelle

posted by Michelle on 02/19/2009

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