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| Help! Anyone else with the same issue out there? Any advice? |
| My 8 year old son Andrew is of my concern. He is just "different". He's always had social problems at school, doesn't really have friends. Andrew is an honest (sometimes overly), extremely sensitive little boy. Academically he is above his peers, especially in math but when it comes to interpersonal relationships kids have a difficult time relating to Andrew and understanding him. His ways of coming to conclusions are very different, correct in the end but just different. When he was very little, maybe 2, he'd wake up in the middle of the night terrified of a "fire" (he's never seen one and never heard of any fire when he was 2). He sleepwalks regularly and never remembers any of it in the morning. Kids at school make fun of him and don't want to play with Andrew because he's "different". It saddens me because I don't want him to be lonely... He acts out trying to impress others but in the end the people around him think that he's just plain weird. Andrew is very possessive about his things and still doesn't know how to share with other children. He has an easier time relating to adults and his statements are very "mature". He's only 8 and needs his peers. |
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Hi Ivona -
Andrew is a perfectly normal Crystal child. Crystal children are very good in math and in building and creating things. They have a hard time socially, unless they meet other children like themselves. I don't know if you believe in reincarnation, but it sounds like Andrew is bringing through experiences from a prior life. Did he ever talk about the "fire"? Does he still sleepwalk? Many Indigo, Crystal and Rainbow children communicate with other children on a telepathic level while they "sleep". Encourage him to express his creativity. If you believe in reincarnation, ask him if he remembers the "fire". Assure him that it's ok to remember - that it can't hurt him anymore. You will learn alot by what he tells you - or what he doesn't. If he tells you he can't remember, believe him. Anywhere between 6, 7 & 8 years, the veil that shrouded the prior life memories gets heavier. Many children can no longer remember. If he can remember, listen with an open heart and an open mind. Your son is not "weird." Do not look for a "diagnosis" that labels him. Explain how intelligent he is and how advanced he is over many other kids his age. Tell him that doesn't make him better than his peers, it gives him an opportunity to share his knowledge with those that aren't as open. Explain to him that he can't force what he knows on others, he needs to accept them where they are and one day, they will accept him too. It isn't going to be easy Ivona, that I can assure you - but after raising 3 Indigos - I can honestly say they have taught me many things that I would not have and could not have learned anywhere else.
Blessings,
Mary M. Ernsberger, HHP |
| posted by Mary on 12/30/2008 |
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| I hate to put this out there - but have you looked into Asperger's or Pervasive Developmental Disorder, Not Otherwise Specified - or something like a Semantic Pragmatic Disorder. These kiddo's can be quite intelligent, particularly in math and sciences. Just to throw that out there. Email me if you want more information. |
| posted by Michael on 12/30/2008 |
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i think i would talk to his pediatrician (just to be safe) about some type of disorder like michael mentioned (again just to be safe) ...he is right...a lot of these kids are geniuses in math and stuff, but they just cant understand others social cues, even body language...i believe most fall under the autism spectrum in highly functioning
that aside, i would try to find him a friend who is more like him rather than making him conform to other kids...all kids are different and kids can be downright cruel...i was a "different" kind of kid (also just didnt get social cues but i suck at math lol) it helps to have someone else to talk to who seems to get you so you dont feel so "different"...it has to be hard for him and it has to be soooo hard for you as a mom to see his heartbreak day after day...you know he understands more than he lets on about other kids not wanting to play with him...is he artistic? maybe try an art class? dramatic? put him in a theatrical group...physically active? maybe a karate or gym class...good at chess or something? well, you get the point...find kids who are more like him...once he makes a good friend or two, he will start to naturally adapt to fit in with them without feeling like he HAS to conform or change...
still again, i really would express your concerns to your pediatrician and if you dont feel like you are taken serious, ask for a second opinion from a specialist...you have a mother's instinct for a reason...you know your child better than anyone else :) |
| posted by nikki on 12/31/2008 |
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I'm sorry I'm responding to all comments at the same time but I'm not sure how to write a separate one for each response.
First of all I'd like to thank all of you for your advice. I found it very helpful and appreciate every bit of it.
Mary, I do believe in reincarnation and yes, I am very interested in finding out about Indigo or Crystal children. As the matter of fact, I'm going to Barnes & Noble later today to buy "The Indigo Children Book". I read some information on Indigo Children and it seems like they often get diagnosed with behavioral/emotional disorders. I think I'll approach this issue from both ends, the spiritual one (The Indigo Children) and the clinical (possibly Semantic Pragmatic Disorder) and see what we can do to help Andrew. I want him to maximize his potentials and help him be a happy little boy. One thing I know, I will say NO to any pharmaceuticals if offered for his treatment. Thank you for your support Mary!
Michael, thank you for your post. I haven't heard of Pervasive Developmental Disorder or Semantic Pragmatic Disorder before. After reading your post I immediately Wikipedia'd these disorders and I was amazed how Andrew matches the Semantic Pragmatic Disorder criteria! I spoke to a friend about this and he suggests that yes, I should have a School Psychologist evaluate Andrew but I shouldn't just throw the dx at her but rather have her come up with her own conclusion. Thanks for your expertise Michael! I appreciate every bit of it!
Hi NIkki, I will definitely have Andrew evaluated but I did speak to his Pediatrician before and another one after that. They just seem to believe that Andrew is just a regular little boy and will "outgrow it". Yes, it does hurt me to see him struggle and I will do everything I can to help. I appreciate your support. It helps tremendously to have support of other people who understand and don't judge. I've heard many things, like "It's bad parenting", "It's your fault.", or "He just needs a good spanking." I will trust my instincts and be there for my son to help him maximize his potentials. Thank you Nikki!
Ivona
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| posted by ivona on 12/31/2008 |
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