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Potty training

I've started to potty train my 21 month old little girl, and I have no idea how to start or what to expect. I have let her run around half naked for an hour or so at a time and, she does pretty well about going to the potty and trying. She has had several succeses already. When she had to go poo poo, it was a completely different story. She didn't want to sit on the potty at all, it was as if she was afraid to. I think it may be due to the fact that she is used to standing when she poops. Is this normal?

I have also had her wear the training pants and am trying to teach her to pull them off when she has to go, but she ends up pulling them off completely and then being distracted by them and not going potty. Is this normal as well?

I'd appreciate any advice you ladies have to offer.

Thank you.

Written by lorena

Posted on 11/03/2008

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Being afraid to poop is completely normal! I can't tell you th exact reason but all of my friends had this problem with their kids, boy and girl. For some reason, that was the first thing my son got potty trained with, then came the peeing on the potty. Ohhh and those crazy training pants. We ended up giving up on those with our son after about 2 weeks. It was the same thing, hed take them off, play with them, never want them back on. and also...after have a few accidents in them, and see that the pee didnt go everywhere, and he could hide the fact that he had an accident for a little while from us, it was as if it gave him permission TO pee in them. he didnt view them as any different than a diaper and didnt understand why we kept telling him not to go in them. so, after we finished up a pack...we just went cold turkey and let him have accidents and make a mess on the floor and showed him how getting changed and washed down took time away from playing. we even did it in public and told him if he peed in the stores floor...the workers would be sad. and you know what...its been 7 months since we started and he as NEVER had an accident in public!

after we did the cold turkey thing, in 2 weeks...he was potty trained and still is.

oh and we started when he was 21 months also, if that helps at all.

training pants were convenient for me but confusing for my son. so maybe think about not using them? we carried 5 or more pants and underwear with us at all times and just expect accidents. our son got pretty tired, pretty fast of having to get washed up and changed all the time.

also, we kept his potty in plain site. where ever he spent the most time. which for him was the living room/play room. not only did it remind him to go potty, but it reminded us to remind him.

wow that was long. i hope it helps even a little bit. be patient your little girl is still very little and has lots of time to learn!

posted by Rebecca on 11/04/2008

Thanks Rebecca,
I feel the same way about training pants, they're just like diapers and are confusing to both of us. I was thinking about putting underwear on my little girl to , so she can feel what it's like to go pee/poo on herself and learn to go in the potty instead. I think I like the cold turkey way best too.

posted by lorena on 11/04/2008

Give it a shot. Stay home for a few days if you dont want accidents in public. And if you dont mind (i didnt mind, if anyone looks at a kid weird for having an accident, they should be slapped) and just pack a bunch of extra clothes and let her know its OK! my son got so upset that hed get in trouble. but what i also learned with my son, was...giving him a negative response to an accident, caused him to have MORE accidents, because he liked the attention. i also have a new born when he started to regress, so that could be why he liked even the negative attention, so your daughter might not feel the same. but what worked for us, was saying something like "see its not fun to have to leave the store (park) whatever and stop having fun to get all our clothes changed. if you pee on the potty you get to go RIGHT back to playing!!!" but no negative words about the act itsself.

and my son soon just started saying "im going to go pee now so that i can go right back to playing!!!" so he caught on its easier to just pee and get it over with, than pee in his pants and spend a lot of time getting cleaned up.

good luck! let me know how it turns out!

posted by Rebecca on 11/05/2008

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