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| I have a 13 month old daughter who likes to unplug our floor lamps and than try to plug them in again. I am so scared that she will hurt herself but nothing I do to stop her works. We have to leave the door open due to my cats food and litter in in there. She also likes to push the buttons on our tv and rock her high chair while in it. I don't know if this happens to a lot of parents but I'm at my wits end. I don't want to smack her hands or spank her but I don't want her to get seriously hurt either. Help!!! |
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I was just at a class that taught to use other words than "no" i.e. Stop, Can't, don't because.....
They say to also after you say to stop and explain why that when they do it to put them in a sort of time out for a minute or 2 and see if they understand the consequence. My daughter loves the pushing buttons thing and I know it's because she is seeing that she "causes" or "effects" something, but after turning on and off the TV a million times I have to intervene I just turn her attention elsewhere. It is not easy but as a last resort I have spanked her hand. Not hurtful but I think the stern "Stop" is what startles her more.
It is different with every child. good luck |
| posted by Kristhal on 09/19/2008 |
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My son was kinda scared into listening. When he would go for the electrical outlets or stove I would say uh, uh . owie!! really
loud. Not screaming just very forceful with a very serious look on my face. It still works to this day and he is 4 yrs old.
The hand smacking or spanking are not my style. Try and let me know how it goes. I think just getting them to stop and pay attention is the key to it all |
| posted by nancy on 09/19/2008 |
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| I'll give it a shot. Who knows, it might work. |
| posted by Sarah on 09/20/2008 |
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I would not recommend saying 'no' very often, you can say why don't you read a book with me or let's do something together, sing the alphabet song...talk often. As far as unplugging lamps she should not be near them, but if she is just revert her attention immediately elsewhere. I used those white plastic covers that you put into the outlet and my son never seemed to have much interest in outlets at all. Remember to give her something else to do, puzzles, stories, blocks, songs etc. Also, I do not agree with slapping, smacking, spanking, it just teaches them that hitting is okay and they will learn to do it to others.
Best Regards,
Jill
http://www.GetwithitGoGreen.com
Best Regards,
Jill |
| posted by Jill on 09/21/2008 |
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| Do you use outlet covers or other babyproofing stuff? |
| posted by Jenna on 09/23/2008 |
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| Do you use outlet covers or other babyproofing stuff? |
| posted by Jenna on 09/23/2008 |
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| Do you use outlet covers or other babyproofing stuff? |
| posted by Jenna on 09/23/2008 |
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I think in order for the child to really understand, there has to be a consequence. Obviously when the child touches the outlet nothing is happening, so they dont know why you are telling them No, dont touch that, danger, etc... If you use time out, then they will learn, 'if i touch that, i have to sit by myself and not play' so that should help to discourage the child from touching. I think if you dont believe in hand popping or spanking, especially at such a young age, you should do time out. Again, if there is no consequence the child will always continue doing whatever they want because there is nothing stopping them.No matter how many times you move them or redirect, if theres no reinforcement to keep them from wanting to touch, they are still going to do it.
I feel like Im saying the same thing over and over, but I hope you get what Im trying to say. Bottom line, there has to be a consequence in order to make them not WANT to touch |
| posted by Amy on 09/23/2008 |
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This what a recommend:
Instead of "No", count to 3. Say 1, don't touch that, etc At 3, use a time out. I started this at about 12 months. It's much more effective than saying no, no, no ten thousand times.
I began doing this when my twins were 14 months old. The first day, I put one of them in time out probably ten times for climbing on the coffee table. But the next day I didn't have to do it all.
And now that they are 21 months. I mostly just say "1" or "2" and they stop what they are doing. |
| posted by Jen on 10/12/2008 |
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They sell these plastic covers that go into the sockets that kids can't pull out for when its not in use, they are a few bucks for a pack of 20 or something. They sell another one that covers both plugs when something is plugged in, I believe that one cost me $3.
The high chair I bought was a rocking high chair so I can't help you there...and the buttons on the tv, well that can't really hurt her...but it is aggravating...I think we just started turning off Alex's cartoons when he was really into one and said rude ins't it? He got the hint. It was just so fun for him to make something work and then stop again, same deal with the plugs. whooo its magic lol
I bet she would love some of the leap frog toys like StoryBlock® Book. Push the block in and make it talk. Or the ones that teach animals and letters, she's got skills now, she probably would go nuts if she got a song for her hard work since seeing a light go on is so much fun lol! :)
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| posted by Nicole on 10/14/2008 |
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| the best advice i have is to be consistent find a method you feel comfortable with like a short time out and stick with it.afer a while your message will sink in. It's really easy to just give up and move stuff out of reach but that doesn't teach kids anything |
| posted by katie on 10/21/2008 |
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i feel the same way you do...hate having to resort to smacking hands (i did try it but felt too bad and it didnt work anyway)
DD is 13 months old and into everything
what i do is whenever she starts to get CLOSE to what she isnt allowed to do (she climbs onto the couch to get TO the remote control) i say "you better not touch that remote"
i let her get almost to it and say "aaaaccchhhhhh!!!!!! dont do it!!!" really stern...then when she touches it, i yell really loudly "NO NO NO NO NO" and immediately move her to the other side of the room
that way, all of the work she did to get there (climbing on to the couch, walking up to the remote) was for nothing
after about 3 times, she got pissed and stopped doing it if i was in sight
THEN she got sneaky and started to do it as soon as i would step out of sight (the worst was when i went to make her lunch)
so i started baiting her by hiding in the kitchen and calling out when she would get near the couch "better not be touching the remote" then when she would be ready to grab it i would yell as i ran towards her "NO NO NO" and move her across the room
the startle and moving her away really works for us
before you ask, the reason i dont just put the remote up where she cant reach it is PRINCIPLE i tell her not to touch and she has learned to not touch one of these days she would try to touch something i could not just put up (your tv buttons for example) so i felt i had to teach her rather than put stuff out of her reach...i only put up stuff that could really hurt her (poison) or be superexpensive to replace (glass and crystal) |
| posted by nikki on 01/02/2009 |
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Hi.
One thing i have loearnt that every one has their own manner in which they dicipline their own kids, no matter what anyone says or does, it about you and your child and what you are willing to do to sough out the poroblem, i much say smacking a child does not always help, but going down to their level where they are and asking them why they do what they do, might get you a response, and USING THE CORRECT TONE OF VOICE (authority) will definately earn you respect. if you dont let them know who is to be respected from a baby you can forget it.
take time is understanding you child and alowing them to show you what they want when they want and then asking them to make you understand will make you understand them and visa versa.
speak to your child by going down on your knees to their level and using a voice of authority will eventually earn your the respect and attendtion you deserse, but do one step at a time.
look im not perfect but when i use the correct tone of voice believe you me, my child knows i mean business.
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