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| HELP!!! If there is any one who can help me with this BIG problem PLEASE I will take what ever I can get. Every time my son doesn't want to do something or something doesn't go his way he whines. He is 5 years old and he acts like he is 2. I don't know what to do anymore. I have tried to reward him at the end of very day with a chart and at the end of the week if it was full with stickers he would get a new toy. IT DOESN'T WORK! I don't know what to do anymore. Could some please help?
Thanks
Tammy |
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| Time out baby. Stop rewarding him for him acting like a 2 year old. By you rewarding him, he thinks that he will get a sticker for acting out. So he is doing the reverse pyschology on you and I think it's working. Everytime he does something that you don't like put him in timeout. One minute for every year so five minutes. He is old enough to understand why he is being sat in timmeout. We started time out with our 2 year old about a month ago. Yes he doesn't understand a whole lot but he doesn't do it for the rest of the day. |
| posted by Chelle on 09/09/2008 |
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| Thats good advice. If that doesn't work you can also try watching "the happiest child on the block". It also comes in a book. I honestly forget who it is by but it is from a doctor and he also wrote "the happiest baby on the block." My son is only 6 months so i have not had to use the child one, but i have used the baby one and it works great. My other family members have used the child one and have gotten good results with it. Good luck and keep trying. |
| posted by Brenda on 09/09/2008 |
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| I have this issue with my 3year old son. I approach him as soon as I hear him, tell him to stop whining, ask him what is it he wants, ask him to use his words, mediate the situation if it involves the siblings, help him get what he wants, or deny him what he wants, in other words handle the situation he's whining about immediately. Most important, be consistent! Whether your driving, cooking dinner, doing laundry, entertaining guests, stop right away and handle it. Otherwise it will continue or increase. We have gotten alot better, but if I let it go even once in a while, we take a couple steps back. So again, stay consistent. It took him 3yrs to get as whiny as I have allowed him to be, so it will take some time to retrain his behavior, but it is happening. I already see improvement. God Bless You! |
| posted by Renee on 09/09/2008 |
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| Thank you all for your advice. I appreciate it very much. I will use it all to the best of my ability but I am at the end of my rope with this. It seems to only happen when we tell him he can't have or do something and when we tell him it's bedtime. So I will try everything you all have suggested and will keep you posted. Thanks again. |
| posted by Tammy on 09/09/2008 |
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To modify behavior you can role model the behavior you would like to achieve.Teach the appropriate communication . One way is to put two chairs face to face. Have the child or children ask what they want and the other person replys back the answer. Ask them to look at each other so they can communicate with words and body language. ( 5 year olds can do this) You will see if you do this with the child they will do it on their own when they want to work out a problem with another person. Teach the skills!
Think of whining as communication!
A great site!
http://www.handinhandparenting.org/csArticles/articles/000000/000032.htm
Hope it helps you!
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| posted by christine on 09/09/2008 |
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| I also have a similar problem with my 3 1/2 yr old. She will whine or cry and repeat whatever it is she wants over and over after Ive told her no. So, she gets time out.I think time out should work for you as well. She has also been throwing fits when being sent to time out. She will yell No, and scream, literally Scream! like a crazy person, and cry. So, I have talked to her calmly and told her "If you go to timeout like a good girl and think about what you did wrong for 3 minutes, you can get up. Otherwise you have to wait until you stop crying and then sit nicely for 3 minutes and your timeout ends up being a lot longer than it had to be." I have to remind her of this every time she throws a tantrum but we went the whole day yesterday with her doing time out with no screaming! |
| posted by Amy on 09/15/2008 |
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| I am a mother of 5, my oldest is 23 and my youngest is 5. I have had everything come up with my 5 children that you can imagine and have tried every experiment thought of and have found one things stands out alone. Yours is at the right age to start. When my oldest was young she would cry about everything even if you looked at her wrong. This needed to stop so whenever she cried for no reason I would make her do a chore. Whether it was picking up the room or sweeping the floor, if she cried about that I would give her another chore and if she cried about that I would give her another, eventually she caught on and the crying and whinning stopped. I then used this technique for fighting, not doing homework, bad attitudes, needless to say they all caught on and I had a really clean house and really good children but it eventually got to the point that my house wasn't as clean because my kids were so good so I kept asking them to do something to I could punish them with and they would just laugh. My thought was why should I suffer if they were misbehaving, I should enjoy it and I did until they were really good and I had to hire a maid. They just did their chores. |
| posted by Kiyomi on 12/13/2008 |
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