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help!!!

ok here's my problem~~~~ my husband is in iraq so im rasing our 2 kids pretty much by myself. my family helps out when they can. my oldest daughter just turned 3 and we have an 8 month old daughter to. now that my 8 month old is mobile my oldest has been sooo mean to her. she walks by her and pushes her over...takes things from her....i have hardwood floors so when she pushes her over she screams.. im so tired of yelling at her..i know that kids will be kids but how can i get her to understand that her baby sister doesn't understand things like she does....i've tried everything to get her to stop being so mean ..she is a very well behaved child this has been the only problem that i had to deal with so far. i have no idea what to do. my husband is coming home in a few weeks for his leave and will only be home for 18 days. my oldest already says thats my daddy not baby sisters daddy...he wasnt here for the birth of the 8 month old...we havent seen him since sept 9th and she was born in oct. help me please!!!!

Written by jessica

Posted on 06/27/2008

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Hi, Jessica
Same thing happened to my two boys, who are 32 months and 10 months respectiv ely. My oldest boy started getting physical with his little brother about one month ago, he kicked him, hit him, took things from him. I didn't know how to respond at first. I yelled at the older one but it actually made the situation worse. Yelling not only didn't stop the hitting, but awarded him with attention. What I did was whenever he hurt his little brother, I would talk to him calmly and let him know that I don't like his behavior, then carry on what I was doing before. It actually worked for us. He rarely hits the little one now.

posted by joy on 06/28/2008

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