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| Thinking about #2 |
Hi there! My daughter Marissa will be nine months on March 1. My husband and I want to definitely have another baby -- maybe a third? -- and I'm approaching 35 this August. So, we've been talking about trying to have another baby sometime this month. If things go as planned -- and of course you never know with trying to have/having a baby -- Marissa would be about 18 months when the second baby comes. I'm just wondering if anyone else has thought about adding to her family... if anyone has experience with kids this close in age... if this is even close in age at all??... the pros and cons of having a baby with another under the age of two... Any feedback or thoughts would be great! Tara :) |
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| I would like to have a second child but with the economy going the way that it is, we probably won't have another. But good luck to you and I hope you get pregnant soon. |
| posted by Chelle on 02/25/2008 |
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We are already trying for #2 ( my period is 4 days late!). I'm trying to hold off on being too excited until we know for sure. Anyway, I'm 32. My son is 14 months old (which will make him less than 2 years if I am in deed pregnant). My husband is currently a MD resident (they make very little) and I gave up teaching to be a mom. Our financial situation should improve drastically in the near future but you never know, right? Despite the unknowns, we decided that we want at least one more. I just look at my son and realize that I don't want him to be an only child. Both my husband and I have siblings and have lasting relationships with them.
My sister has two boys, less than a year apart. She says that it is REALLY hard when they are toddlers and younger but now that they are 10 and 9, she looks back on those years with fond memories. I hear that you have to get yourself on a good schedule and follow the older toddlers schedule. I plan to talk to my mother friends before #2 arrives to get the dirt on how to micro manage more than one little person!
Good Luck! |
| posted by michiko on 02/25/2008 |
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Thank you to you both for responding!
Michiko - I, too, wish you luck! Funny... I also gave up teaching (high school English, though) and like you, want my little one to have at least one sibling. (My husband wants three; we'll see!!!) I used to teach in Baltimore County, actually. At Perry Hall High School to be exact. Again, much much luck to ya! |
| posted by Tara on 02/26/2008 |
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I think there is some pros and some cons. You and your husband will make a great choice whatever you two decide. My children are three years apart.. I have many friends with their children one or two years apart. I see it alot in my classes. I teach aprt-time mommy ane me and I have sibling class where most of the children are about one in half years apart.. I will say it is truely hard the first 9 months according to alot of the moms but then they say it gets easier...
My Andrew is five and my Ashley is two and we tried for them to be two years apart and I mis-carried so they are three..
It is nice because I get alot of quality time with Ashley while Andrew is in Kindergarten but the down side is she misses brother while he is in school.. The upside is I spend time with Andrew afterschool while Ashley naps... the hardest part of the three year different is Ashley wants to do what her big brother is doing and that always doesn't work out especially when he is doing homework or in a lego building project.. I was thirty when I had Andrew and thirty three with Ashley I am now 36 and I love spending time with both of my chidlren for my sanity sake I am glad I did the three year difference, but everyone is different and if you have alot of patience and can handle the chaos have them closer together because then they are going through similiar stages together and if you like things a little calmer and want more time separate then farther apart.. My sis and I are five years apart and we were not close growing up, my brother and I are 2 years and nice months and we hae always been extremely close and my huband and his brother are two years apart and have a love hate relationship for years but theya re extremely competitive, but if you ask his mother she loved having them two yers apart so she was doing the same thing all at once... So, there was my two cents of the day.. Good Luck with your decision..
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| posted by heidi on 02/28/2008 |
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sorry about the above comment, I should I spell checked......
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| posted by heidi on 02/28/2008 |
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| My girls are 2 years apart. My oldest is 3.5 and my youngest is 1.5. It is difficult at times but I wouldn't change anything. The youngest is trying to keep up with her older sister and wants to do everything the older ones does (doesn't always work out). I did notice that my younger is more outgoing but I attribute that to wanting to be like her sister. Trying to keep both happy is hard, but I think it teaches the older one to be more understanding and patient. We also want more kids and hope to start trying but as you have more kids your "alone time" with your husband is less and your energy levels to "try" are less. So we have not really been trying but not preventing either, I was hoping for 2 year gap again. I really like how the girls are so close and they are already becoming great friends. My older daughter looks out for her younger sister all the time. So yes its hard at first but does get easier. |
| posted by Lisa on 02/29/2008 |
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| my oldest two are 15months apart(boys) they are now 10 and 11. I would not have changed having them that close, they always had a playmate, were close enough in age to have the same interests, and have become nearly inseperable over the years, Its a little challenging to have two in diapers, but the pros for me by far outweighed the cons, which was really just back to back pottytraining, but the older one helped the younger one! I say go for it definately!! |
| posted by brannon on 03/01/2008 |
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Tara,
My sister and brother in law, both in their mid forties, have two boys, one is 3, and their second is 2. They get along wonderfully and the second one looks up to his big brother. I observed my sister in law and she was pushing the baby carriage, 39 weeks pregnant, drinking lots of water, walking and resting. Make sure you rest and call on help. It can be done. I pray you will be blessed. |
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