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Bad gift or spoiled rotten?

I struggle with everything I purchase for my husband. I came from a family that was middle class and very southern. Regardless of what we received we said thank you with a smile and took it home. We never complained it was considered bad manners, my mother taught me that if someone thinks enough of you to buy you a gift be thankful and appreciate the thought even if it's not something you need or want for that matter. My husband on the other hand is the youngest of 5 and has always gotten the newest most expensive toys the nicest of everything. So basically I can't buy him anything that he likes. I take the extra time to buy thoughtful gifts things that I think express my feelings for him and he always has something negative to say. It's not the right brand, I should've waited for him to go with me, I bought the cheap one. It's hurtful and extremely depressing. I don't even want to buy him anything anymore, why waste the time when he'll just want to return it anyway. I want to be mad but I'm so frustrated that my efforts aren't appreciated or noticed. Plus I don't want to have ungrateful kids, little brats. Am I making this more than it is or do you guys think I right? When is it considered bad manners?

Written by Krystal

Posted on 02/19/2008

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I agree with you. I was taught as well to be thankful for what we recieved and if we weren't, we didn't need to recieve it. I think you and your husband might need to have a chat about his manners when recieving gifts. Tell him that it does hurt your feelings when he tells you things like that. Also, express your concerns about your children's manners and that he is a big role model in their life. You do not want your kids to grow up to be ungrateful.

posted by Ashley on 02/19/2008

Concerning your husband I would print out the image of the present you think about buying, if he likes the idea go ahead and buy it...it will save you some agony!

For your kids, I agree that they should learn to be grateful and gracious about any present they receive.

Vero

posted by Vero on 02/20/2008

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