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Daddy's Little Girl

Sometimes my daughter acts like she only loves my husband and wants him even when she is upset. She is almost 14 months now and I am her primary caretaker but for some reason, there are times, and more than a few times, that she just only wants him. It takes me almost two solid days alone with her to get her back to wanting me and for me to console her when she is upset. I am not embarrassed to say, I get hurt and jealous! Does any one else have this issue?

Written by MARYANNE

Posted on 12/26/2007

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i wish i had thsat issue!~!!! lol i cant get my 10 month old girl to go to her dad most times!!! sad, but i almost envy you....lol

posted by Devon on 12/27/2007

My son has always preferred his dad over me. He calls him dad and me by my first name instead of mom. I had seen a program a while back that says a child is most likely to cling to the parent they feel they are not getting enough attention from. I don't know if that's true, but I do know you should try not to take it personally and remember that your child feels a connection with you too just in a different way.

posted by lisa s on 12/29/2007

When my first son was an infant, neither I nor my husband could console him when he was really upset. This upset me because I felt I should be the one to have some "magical" effect on him. After all, I was his mom! Now my son is almost 4 and a lot of times he'll say "I love you mommy" out of the blue. I cherish those moments because he doesn't always verbalize his emotions. That's just his personality. I read somewhere that children will favor the mom at times and the dad at other times for whatever reason. I think that the program that Lisa S saw could be true too. Maybe she is seeking attention from him especially if she gets to be with you a lot. Just know that your little one loves you and all that you do for her even though she may not always show it.

posted by Lisa on 12/30/2007

thanks. she does sometimes favor one and then the other but when we go to someone's house and she is nervous and upset, she only wants him. i guess she feels safer and more secure with him and I dont know why.

posted by MARYANNE on 12/30/2007

My little girl does the same thing all I hear when her daddy is home is daddy, daddy, daddy. I just smile and know that eventually it will be my turn again. Don't react to her just let it run it's course. It's hard but they do allot of it for a reaction.

posted by Krystal on 01/03/2008

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