Need to vent I guess -

Need to vent I guess

Hi Ladies,

I am kinda in a dilema and I guess need to vent. Maybe could also use some advice.

I became a SAHM in Sept 2007 and right as I was doing so a couple my husband knows moved back to our area and he kinda volunteered me to help watch their daughter 2 days a week. (Now, under normal circumstances, he wouldn't have just done that but he did).

We had had the best luck with our sitter, who watched my son from 13 weeks old until I decide to be a SAHM when he turned 2, and in a way I guess I wanted to return the favor to any parent out there who was in our situation. And plus two days a week wasn't bad.

Then when we returned from our vacation I found out I was pregnant. Things sorta changed for me, I have been extremely sick since Oct 1 and just don't have it in me to do much. I have my lil routine down with my son who is 2 years old so it would give me plenty of time before our new arrival to just have time with him. The lil girl I watch is 10 months old, she is very sweet. I am just so consumed by my morning sickness that I'm not so gun ho about watching her. I hope I don't sound mean or awful... Plus, the baby cries ALL DAY LONG and there is NO consoling her. It's impossible. I get nervous, I can see my son gets nervous and I just feel ten times worse after she goes home.

I worked hard for many years and my hubby and I did a lot to get to the point to where I could stay at home with Donovan so I feel kinda cramped by having to do this. I just want my time with my son until our new baby arrives and then I just want to be with them ONLY. I feel so bad because I always respected our sitter but I don't feel like I can do the same for my hubby's friends. I also wouldn't want anyone to be disapointed in me so I have been keeping my mouth shut about my feelings. I think if I didn't get preggers right away and felt better I'd have a more positive attitude but with being preggers I guess I don't.

Sorry this is so long, I guess I needed to vent. Any advice on how to go about this would be appreciated.

Thanks-Renata

Written by Renata

Posted on 10/22/2007

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Can you politely tell them that it is not working out? Just explain that since you are expecting it is hard to be there for her when you are not feeling well. Maybe you could give them the number of the sitter you used. You should not feel bad about doing it, not all kids work out with all sitters.

posted by on 10/22/2007

Jackie-

The sitter I used went back to work f/t since her kids are well in elementary school. I told my hubby we have to talk tonight and briefly explained and he agreed with me. Thanks for your response I guess I just feel bad and overly emotinal.

posted by Renata on 10/22/2007

You shouldn't feel bad, situations change all the time and most parents know that. You need to put your health and family first. I hope you feel better soon.

posted by on 10/22/2007

Jackie-
Simply tell them (or have your husband do it) that you are too ill to care for their child. You need to take care of yourself and your family first. If this helps, you can find good sitters on Craigslist.com - check the childcare section. There are a whole bunch of well- qualified SAHM's listed who are looking for kids to watch. That's how I found my sitter and she is awesome. (Just don't forget to check references.)

posted by Annie on 10/22/2007

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