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| Last night I had the worst night ever, my son did not want to be in his crib and he was crying so loud that I though my neighbors will call the cops on me lol . I think is my fault, he was sleeping thru the night on his crib without problems since he was 3 months old but 2 weeks ago, my husband was out of town so I let him sleep with me in my bed, after that our bedtime problems started. At the beggining he was getting up around 5 am so Ive been getting him from his crib , feeding him in my bed and after his bottle we both were sleeping another 2 or 3 hours (in my bed) silly me!!!! But last night It was impossible to leave him on his bed, He got sleepy at 9:30pm as usual but as soon as I put him on his crib he started to cry and scream, so we ve been like that for like 2 hours, hell get sleepy on my arms, I ll put him on his crib and he will start crying, pick him up and the same thing over and over and over again I know there was nothing wrong with him because everytime I got him up he was fine so I was like nooooo wayyyy little man you are staying in your bed so I thouth by letting him cry for a while he will get the message and sleep, well It was 2 am and he was still crying and I was so tired that I just got up, took him and as soon as I put him in my bed he passed out without problems more than obvious that was what he wanted. I dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!! Please help!!!!! what should I do????? |
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One mistake my husband and I realized we were making after having the same experience with our son, was waiting to put him down too late. It took us over three months to battle the problem of him sleeping in our bed. I finally got so fed up one night I told him at 7:00pm that it was "night night" took him into his room, put him in his crib very awake, went outside so as not to be tempted to go back into his room once he started crying, and he fell asleep within minutes. The next night we put him in his room at 7pm and never heard a peep. Now all I have to do and tell him it is "night night" and he will walk over to my husband give him kisses and walks right into his bedroom to his crib putting his arms up to me to put him to bed. It finally clicked after the third night that we had been letting him get too tired and we all know an over tired baby is impossible to get down.
Hope my experience helps. Good luck. It does get better!!!!! |
| posted by Cyndie on 07/20/2007 |
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Hi Lorena!
Thanks for the supportive comments on my blog. You can do it too. It sounds like you are pretty active with all the walks and stuff so that's a good start.
As for the bedtime nightmare, I'm a bad person to give advice in that department. Our son has been getting up in the middle of the night and getting into our bed for about a month now and I can't get it to end. I'm soooo tired!!! |
| posted by Lisa on 07/20/2007 |
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Thank you so much to both of you!!!! And Cyndie your experience actually makes lot of sense to me today I was about to do the same thing but he passed out drinking his bottle he was so tired since he did not sleep that well last night but tomorrow I will try what u did.
Im so happy since I found this site you guys are so much help I dont feel alone anymore =0) |
| posted by Lorena on 07/20/2007 |
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Another thing to remember is our children love a schedule. And I am giving all this advice from experience. LOL It took months of my mother and friends giving their imput. I didn't listen to them for months and was completely amazed when what they said worked. But being a new mom I needed to figure it all out on my own. I always though Jamen needed to be cudddled and held and loved before going to bed. But he has now shown me that he is much happier putting himself to bed. He might lay in his room for a little pit talking to himself, but he is usually asleep within minutes. This morning he slept until 8:30am and that was going to sleep at 6:30pm. He is like a different kid also because he is getting so much sleep.
My best advice is to pick a routine and stick with it. We come home from work, 5pm, play outside, then go in for dinner, then go and play outside, then come in for a bath and playtime in the living room and then he is in bed between 6:30pm and 7pm. I might not get alot of time with him in the evening but it is definately quality time and he is a much better little man being on this schedule.
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| posted by Cyndie on 07/21/2007 |
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| Thanks for your advice Cyndie, well yesterday he fall asleep drinking his bottle around 7:30pm but he actually woke up at 2am crying so I got up, feed him and put him back on his bed, he cried for a while but he finally fall asleep, the funny thing is that this morning I woke up at 7am and I was like cool he still sleeping by 8:30am I was like how weird he still sleeping so I got on his bedroom to check him up and he was sitting on his bed waiting for us to show up I guess he was so cute. Well Im planning to start a schedule starting today, I think like you said our problem is that we ve being waiting until he gets tired to put him in bed (9:00-10:00pm) so starting today his bedtime is going to be between 7:00 & 8:00 and im planning to give him a bath, read him a book and like u said night night so wish me luck!!!! and thanks again for your support. Have a great day!!!! |
| posted by Lorena on 07/21/2007 |
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| Hi Lorena!!! I hope it works for you. My husband and I use to shake our heads when we first starting putting him down. My mother did a very good job in not saying "I told you so". We have been able to put him down by 7pm for 2 months now. He is usually sleeping thru the night, only waking looking for his pacifer. I hope it works for you. I firmly believe that both mom and baby need to be ready for the seperation. We could have tried this 6 months ago and it might not have worked for us, but both Jamen and I were ready to sleep in our own beds. I do miss waking up to him in the morning though with his cute little face looking down at me. Hope you get a great nights sleep tonight!!!!!! |
| posted by Cyndie on 07/21/2007 |
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| Hi Cyndie! I did!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I slept so good!!!! I started with my schedule and last night when I put him down he cried for 5 min and then he fall asleep and he slept all night, he woke up this morning at 7:00am so Im so happy, You were right it was a big mistake waiting for him to be tired to put him on bed and another thing I was doing wrong is that I used to pick him up and hug him when he was crancky because he was tired, it works better to leave him alone. Thank you so much!!!!! |
| posted by Lorena on 07/22/2007 |
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| Yeah!!!!!!!!! I am so happy it worked. And when you have a bad night don't give up!!!! Jamen has slept till 9am both mornings this weekend. And that is still going to bed at 7pm. They need their sleep. I bet you will find after a few more nights, your little man will seem like a whole different child. You will just about cry when you tell him it is "night night" and he looks at you and says "yep" and goes directly to his crib. I love this age!!!!! |
| posted by Cyndie on 07/22/2007 |
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| My daughter sleeps in my bed with me every now then and my husband is so in love with her, he volunteers to sleep on the couch!! She'll be seven months old this weekend, and up until recently, she slept with me on the bed every night. When babies cry and scream like yours does, they either crave the mommy attention (rocking, etc.) until they fall asleep, or they're simply overtired...I love my little girl very much, but sometimes I have to go in the other room and let her cry herself to sleep, and that's my suggestion to you...babies can sense and smell when mommy's around, so if you're in the room, they won't go to sleep. Anyway, I hope that I've helped and not hindered...good luck... |
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