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Marriage & Sex after Kids

Im young, I've been married for 2 years and after having the baby I feel like the relationship with my husband is not the same. I know we love each other but sometimes I feel we are like roomates instead of husband & wife. After work he gets home, eats and goes to sleep, we dont even talk that much anymore, sex its once in a while and we have to schedule it pretty much. Im so tired of the routine that actually Im noticing that everything he does when he is home bothers me, I love him and I want to feel closer to him its so sad I feel so lonely even though Im married. I was thinking that maybe Im just jelouse of him since he still having his job, his social life and he still doing what he likes while Im at home with the baby all the time. I love my husband and son I just cant stop feeling so sad all the time. Do somebody feel the same way??? What should I do??? I want to be happy.

Written by Lorena

Posted on 07/17/2007

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It is normal- a lot of couples go through this. You should read Blindsided by a Diaper, then you'll know you're not alone.

You have to talk to him about how you are feeling. Chances are he is feeling the same way but doesn't know what to do about it either. Set aside some time for the two of you. Either get a sitter or plan it for after the baby goes to bed at night if you're not ready for a sitter yet. Do something special, have a candle light dinner, or something you used to do together before you became parents.

Also, try to plan some time for just you, while your husband takes care of the baby. Take a bath, go to lunch with a friend. Something for you so you feel more like your old self.

Don't expect to fix this overnight. It will take some time. But it is worth making the effort so you can feel more like yourself and close to your husband.

posted by Marcia on 07/17/2007

Thanks Marcia!!!!

posted by Lorena on 07/17/2007

i havent had sex since my daughter was born eight months ago, not ever in the mood. he sleeps on the couch and i sleep upstairs. oh well.

posted by MARYANNE on 07/18/2007

Sex is important in a marriage and if there is a problem or a lack of interest or commitment or fatigue it should be addressed. Sometimes to talk about it makes matters more difficult, but just take the initiative and ¨break¨ the ice, it is just so much simpler.
Make your libido works instead of your words!

I am sure your husband feel the same but any of you have the energy to do something about it.

pia

posted by pia on 07/19/2007

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