I am not mothering like my mother -

I am not mothering like my mother

I always thought to be very natural at mothering even when I had no kids. My friends with kids could not believe how confident I was around children of all ages. However, it was strange to notice that when I had my own kids I was not at all the same kind of mother my mother was with me. I had to find other role model as mother and I could not quite pin point who it would be. Then my cousin had children, and for so much we are different in many aspects even if very close, I realize we mothered in the same way. She mothers like her mother (normal), I mother like my antie (less normal). Of course, with my antie we have a generational gap and many other differences, but she always stayed on her children side and that I carry with me. For good or bad maybe you have to be always your children best ally. My mother was always very ready to criticize me and really after a while it is not constructive criticism but plain antagonism. I am glad I found a more positive role model. Tessa

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Written by teresa

Posted on 06/25/2007

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Every Mother will always do something a little different than the one before. You may find that you have similar acts, but you are your own person. That is ok. Just remember GOD made you the way you are and your kids should be happy you are there for them.
Be you and love your kids for who they are. Stand tall and enjoy motherhood because there is nothing like it.

Christine Zendik

posted by Christine on 04/24/2012

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