I came to a conclusion, if I have to help my kids to deal with this world I might as well give them the right tools. Tell them that life is hard, we do thing that we do not like, we deal with people we don't have affinity, and we try to enjoy the rest.
All the requests "I need that toy", "I want to go there", I answer "I don't care about these needs and these desires". I want to give them a sense of reality and know what to priotitize!
pia