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| Sleep Training vs. No Cry Solution |
| I know this issue has been talked about loosely in other posts but my husband and I have been struggling with our son to sleep well. He is not a colicy baby but he wakes up throughout the night about every 2 hours and he is 12 months old. I have tried to let him cry but I just can't go as long as needed for it to work. So I am putting it out there to see what anyone else has gone through and your opinion of each solution. I know there are also gradual approaches where the baby cries a little but you still respond to the child. My husband and I are trying that approach right now. Hopefully we will be able to get my son to sleep all night again soon. But any input on this would be appreciated. |
| See also: sleep, sleep training, no cry solution, gradual approach |
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| Hi Lori. I am new to the site and it is so nice to see that someone is having a similar issue as my husband and I are having. My son is also 12 months and he has never been a very good sleeper. It started to get real bad when he got sick this winter with the flu when he was about 6 months old. Of course we have made the mistake of bringing him into bed with us. We both work full time and sometimes it is easier. A mistake everyone has pointed out, but we are doing the best we can. I also don't like to let Jamen cry it out. It just seems so mean. Of course he sleeps great with us, but takes up too much room. LOL For the first time last night, I did put him in his crib before he had fallen asleep and he didn't fuss and put himself to sleep. But he woke up at 11pm, his normal time, screaming for me and I went to him. Tonight I think I might try to let him cry it out for awhile. |
| posted by Cyndie on 06/13/2007 |
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| Hey Lori and Cyndie. I am not sure I have great advice, but I have been stuggling with my kids waking in the night. I have a 5 month old and a 3 yr. old. My 3yr. old, Logan, starts out in his bed, then ends up in ours in the middle of the night. If he gets over tired, he gets "night terrors" which are horrible and you can't soothe him. My 5 month old doen't quite sleep through the night, of course, but he wakes up and we just put a pacifier in his mouth. One thing about Logan crying in the middle of the night, he tends to wake up his little brother, or the whole house with his outbursts of cry. I believe Logan sleeps better by himself in his own bed. I have been told it is easier for you and your child if you soothe them while they are still in their bed versuses picking them up and moving them. Hope you both get the advice you are looking for. Good luck! |
| posted by Roxanne on 06/13/2007 |
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| My son is now 2, and still doesn't sleep well. When he was a baby he woke up about every 2 hours, I finally let him sleep in bed with me (my husband was in Iraq until he was 5months). We would try to put him in his own bed but he would still wake. I tried the letting him cry thing but nither of us could sit there and let him cry that long. We finally got him to sleep in his own bed around 18months still waking a little now hes in a bed and still wakes once or up to 4 times at night. Sometimes he has night terrors. Our 7 month old was sleeping in his bed real good then got RSV and now sleeps with us. I watched a show that had these drs on it and they said the kids will sleep in their own bed when they are ready. Just do what works out best for you, your husband and the baby. |
| posted by Stacy on 06/13/2007 |
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| We went through a similar thing with my son (18 mths) when he was younger also. I would let him cry for a few minutes then go in and then wait a few more minutes and go back in each time adding a couple of minutes and each time giving him his bincky back. The first time I would tell him it was ok and he was fine and stroke his back and walk out and each time after that I said nothing and did nothing but give him his bincky and after about 6 days we were past the stage and I havent had a problem since. It hurts you more than it hurts them to cry and just keep telling yourself that hes ok and its for his own good and THIS TO SHALL PASS (thats what I tell myself when we are going through a stage lol) I think that whatever way feels comfortable to you is the right way. Your the mom and you know in your heart what to do so do what makes you and your baby comfortable and it will turn out fine. Good luck |
| posted by amber on 06/13/2007 |
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| I, too, couldn't handle the crying out method. Then, I tried the method of putting him down awake and sitting by his crib until he falls asleep (not touching him). This didn't work for us either. I wasn't consistent about not picking him up. So, finally, after seeing the authors on the Today Show, we bought the Sleep Easy Solution (from walmart.com). This worked for us. The first night, it only took him 15 min to fall asleep-I cleaned dishes while he cried, so It didn't bother me as much. The second night, it took 16 min with little crying at all. By the 3rd night, there was no crying at all! I was amazed! Naptime training was harder. Sometimes he would lie in his crib for 30+min talking, but then he'd fall asleep. I highly recommend this book. It is so nice to put him in his crib and then clean up the house and get to bed myself. The book also tells you some ideal schedules for your baby if your looking to put him on one. My life is so much better now that we are on a schedule and he sleeps and eats better than ever. Good luck! |
| posted by Stephanie on 06/15/2007 |
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Thank you ladies for all your experiences. After long consideration my husband and I decided to do the "Let Cry" method again. My husband definitely needed to help me not respond to my son. After 15 minutes of him crying he fell asleep. He wimpered a little off and on after that but he went to sleep until 4:30 am. He cried for 15 minutes at that hour and then went back to sleep till 6 am. I couldn't believe it!! I had more than 2 hours sleep in a very long time and it wasn't as hard as I was preparing myself for. We did it again last night and he cried for about 15 to 20 minutes then he was out the entire night. I feel better about doing it now because he wakes up completely happy and it doesn't seem to have affected him. I am not sure why it didn't work for me the first time but I am a lot happier and better rested now.
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| posted by Lori P. on 06/15/2007 |
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