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| Long story short, I unexpectly gave birth to twins and now my life has been upside down. My six year old has been acting out, esp. when he comes home from his grandparents, my fiance is too dependent on me, and my twins need to learn to sleep! I'm new to this area, and can't afford to work but can't afford to stay home, and the financial burden is driving me crazy. My post pardom depression isn't helping at all, and my living situation doesn't help as well. Sometimes I feel I'm being pulled from every limb and if I don't get some adult time to interact with other mom's, i feel like i'm going to explode. Not to sound lazy, its hard raising a zoo, and this super mom is going to last much longer before a melt down occurs! |
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Hi Tiffany,
I raised twins too and my husband was working long hours so it was basically on me! It really helped to have a schedule and to stick to it.
If I postponed a task, I would not find any other moment to do it. On the sleeping side, it really helped to get to bed early. I felt frustrated to cut down on my social life but it was the only way to recuperate my sleep loss.
If you have the grandparents helping, you can let them babysit the twins while you take a walk with your 6 years old. Probably he acts out because he feels that he does not get the same attention than before.
Playgroups or playdates are also great as long as the logistic of it does not become an additional stress. In a way you have to take control of your work as a mother...like any other job you have to get in control!
Vero
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| posted by Vero on 05/26/2007 |
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Tiffany, while i did not have twins, my last baby was very colicky and seemed to cry constantly. you never really understand colic until you see it in a baby! But to get back to you, some of it is probably postpartum blues/depression and this takes time. mine is 8months old now and the colic resolved around 4months when the doctor put him on ant-reflux med. Being able to get more than 3hours of sleep at a time really helped.
Before the baby came i had a difficult pregnancy with preeclampsia and tachycardia and my husband was working out of state so i was also taking care of my 2yo.
My stressors were different from yours but any stress in addition to a baby (not to mention two!) can really get u down and financial hardship is one of the worse because it can cause so much guilt while you decide which course to take.
i agree with vero to ask those around you for help:grandparents, relatives, friends, church etc. Lots of people love to hold new babies:)
in addition, you may want to consider discussing with your doctor if you have depression which made need medication-i wish i had done this myself, but i thought it would be weak so i didn't. now that i am on the other side, i see it would have been best for myself and family probably.
my 2yo has also started acting out more now that his baby brother gets more attention than when he was newborn. if you can find some one-on-one time that would be great, but if not use naptime and let other things go like housework. or maybe your fiancee can go do boy-time with him alone.
write me anytime if u need to vent, talk whatever. i feel you girl... |
| posted by Andrea R. on 05/26/2007 |
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