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| I am desperate!!!!!!!! Need sleep training tips!!!!!!!!!! |
| My son is six months old, and lately, he is sleeping less and less at night. I am seriously sleep deprived, I need help. I do not know what I am doing wrong. Any advise will be helpful although, it seems, I have tried just about everything. Also, they say sleep when your baby sleeps during the day but I can't do that. Please Help. |
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The only thing that worked with my kids was co-sleeping. I was too sleep deprived to apply all the different technics to try to make the kids sleep alone. You can always try to reduce his nap time and see if that works! It also helps to go to sleep earlier even if you feel that you have no time for you.
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| posted by Vero on 11/16/2006 |
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| I too found that co-sleeping works best for me and my 3 month old daughter. I tried it after the first few nights home from the hospital and those sleepless nights. I figured that if I was falling asleep in the rocker while nursing her, I might as well be laying in bed with her. It is the only way I have been able to get sleep at night. |
| posted by Ceci on 11/21/2006 |
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| Co-sleeping is great! I wouldn't have done it any other way - I'd never have gotten any sleep! |
| posted by Kelly on 12/10/2006 |
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| My son is 20 Months old now and I'd love to get him out of our bed because neither baby nor myself get a full nights sleep. This however seems impossibe! Time after time we give up and just let him sleep with us because it seems eazier than the alternative. I too really want tips to help train him to sleep through the night!!!! |
| posted by Lori on 12/12/2006 |
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| Is there anyone out there who HASN'T co-slept with their child to encourage sleeping through the night and it has worked? I am really looking for alternatives. |
| posted by Alicia on 01/05/2007 |
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Thank you for your advice. Though, my son still will not sleep through the night. I have tried everything. I stay on the same routine night after night and the only thing that changes is his sleeping pattern. I feed him dinner at 5:30, since he gets his bath in the morning I give him a quick wipey bath, lotion, then warm pj's. At 6:30 I play with him for a solid hour, we sing, dance, practice with his developmental toys, and crawl around the floor. At 7:30 I give him an entire bottle and sing him quietly to sleep, sometimes he goes to sleep right away sometimes he does not. I start him out in his crib and if he gets upset I put him in bed with me. If this does not work we rock for awhile then try again.
Wednesday Night; He went to bed in his crib, woke at 1:00 am, then transfered to my bed.
Thursday Night; He would not go to sleep untill 11:30 pm, in my bed
Friday Night; He went right to sleep at 7:30 pm, in his crib
At this point I don't know if I am doing something wrong or not, everyone that I talk to says 'wow, I don't know, my child always slept through the night', I have always practiced what I call "On demand parenting" I provide what my son wants when he wants it. I am trying to keep him happy and healthy. I basically threw in the towel with this whole sleep training thing, I am just hoping that he does not want to stay in bed with us when he is five years old. What I have learned though is that every baby is different, and what works for most babies in sleeping just doesn't work with my son.
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| posted by Stephanie on 01/06/2007 |
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| When my daughter was an infant she had her days and nights mixed up. She would sleep during the day and be up most of the night. My doctor suggested to cut her naps out so that she was only getting 2 , 30 min naps during the day. And if she tried to sleep longer to wake her up. Baths just woke her up more, but i did have a bedtime routine. I would give her a baby message with lotion that had lavader in it to calm her. And the read a book to her and then listen to some soft music. She was a very cranky baby during the day b/c of no naps. So it was a rough week. But by the end of the week she started to get on a good bedtime routine. She started going to bed at 8:30pm and waking at 6 am. And took her nap around 12:30/ 1 pm til about 2. No morning nap. And it was all worth it. I had to just find what worked for her, b/c the more i tried to do what i wanted the more of struggle it bacame. Now at 2 1/2 she does not take any naps. And if she happens too she is up until midnight. She is just one of those kids who can function without them. With the exception of her being sick or somthing. |
| posted by Stephanie on 03/24/2007 |
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When my son would wake up in the middle of the night he wanted my breast but I had to ween him off. He relied on it to fall asleep.
I would go in there an say it is time to go to sleep, mama and dada are sleeping, it is time to sleep.. If he was teething then I would rock him, give him teething stuff, and pat him on the bum or rub his back.
Sometimes I would let him cry until he could sooth him self back to sleep..
He is a great sleeper now...
I didn't vaccinate so he has never been sick, no antibiotics, ear infections, etc... He is healthy happy, sleeps through the night, and is on a good schedule.
Hope that helps.... |
| posted by on 05/20/2007 |
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| Co-sleeping may be a good idea, but my husband and I did not chose this route. we wanted to keep the bedroom our one sanctuary. When my daughter was old enough (6mo) we decided self soothing methods. When she would wake up we would peek in on her and as long as she was not hysterical we left her. She is a wonderful sleeper now and sleeps atleast 12 hours a night. I would not have done it any other way. Thanks to our method we get more slep, and our bedroom is ours!!! Hope this helps, just remember it is not a horrible thing to let ur child cry if they are ok. You will thank heaven and your husband will thank you ;)! |
| posted by Kaicee on 05/21/2007 |
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| I have never co-slept either but my daughter is a wonderful sleeper and always has been. Try putting her to bed awake so she can get herself to sleep and when she wakes in the middlwe of the night she can then maybe get hersel f to sleep. I use to feel guilty to put my daughter to bed awake , but if I did put her to bed awake she would wake up when I layed her down |
| posted by Natasha on 06/22/2007 |
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| Stephanie...My son Jamen is 14 months and we just got him sleeping in his own crib all night thru within the last couple of months. What we found our mistake was, was putting him to bed too late. We now make sure that he gets to bed before he is at the point of being tired. He will now walk right into his room when it is bed time. We put him down between 6:30-7:00 and he is sleeping thru till 7am. He might wake sometimes looking for his pacifer but that is it. I fought everyone when they gave me any advice, and come to find out they were all right. Don't let him fall asleep in your arms. I thought being a good mother was cuddling my child and giving him that extra love at bed time. But, at least for my son, he does better at putting himself to sleep. Our lives have changed in my house since he has started sleeping in his own bed and going down so much earlier. My husband and I have been able to spend more time together. My attitude has done a 180 since being able to get a full night's sleep. I am not for or against co-sleeping. I co-slept with Jamen for about 3 months. It was what we needed to get thru the nights. But I will definately do thing different with the second child. I am now a huge fan of schedules and going to bed early. An over tired child is impossible to get down. We get home at 5pm and we play, then eat, then bath time, then more play and night time milk and then it is nighty night. It is exhausting two hours of boom boom boom, but my child has all my attention for that 2 hours and then the night is mine. Well not really, there is laundry, housework, cooking dinner, etc. LOL Good luck!!! It does get better!!! |
| posted by Cyndie on 07/22/2007 |
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| I used to pull my daughter into bed with me as well but at the same time I wanted my own bed back. I got her into a routine of bedtime at 8:30 I would give her a bath and a bottle before 8:30 and I had to learn to let her cry her self to sleep she slowly started sleeping through the night it took about a week but I woke up one morning and realized she was still in bed.. Its hard to let them cry but sometimes it really does work :) |
| posted by Erica on 10/01/2007 |
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The co-sleeping thing didn't work for us. Rocking him to sleep was way to exhausing. Plus, it didn't always work. Some nights, I'd rock him for 20 min, place him down in the crib & he wakes right up! No one was getting a good nights rest! We did the crying it out thing -- it was REALLY hard. He was used to us putting him to sleep & he was used to sleeping with his pacifier. He cried for over an hour for a WEEK. Just when we were about to give up, the next night, he cried for 15 and each night got less and less. Remarkably though, as the days went on, he would fuss a bit when we put him down & then will sleep 10-11 hours uninterrupted. The trick is, when he cries, you need to allow him to learn to self soothe himself (meaning, you need to leave the baby in the crib -- unless ill of course). Your baby is used to you putting him to sleep. When he wakes up at 1 am in the morning, he gets upset because you are not there to put him back to sleep. We did the same thing for naps, except I went & got him after 30 min of crying. I worked on the nightime first. I hear that some babies are really easy and will continue sleeping after rocking but your son sounds similar to mine.
Lately, we've been having some tough nights again, no thanks to in coming teeth. We do pick him up, cuddle, give him breast milk, etc and then put him back. He's also waking up more frequently because of the seperation anxiety thing.
Anyway, good luck. I know how frustrating it can be. There are many different sleep theories and many books out there. I read several before starting a method. Sometimes, you need to be willing to look at other options. |
| posted by michiko on 11/06/2007 |
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stephanie I know how you feel. I rocked my daughter to sleep everynight for the first year only to have her wake up in the middle of the night and she would join us in bed and sleep until about 6am. I got tired of sharing my bed with my snoring husband and daughter i would be so cramped from everybody trying to come over to my side of the bed that i couldn't co sleep anymore. I would take my daughter into her room during the day and play most of the time there. Also put her in her crib to play while i put the laundry away in her room. I believe that this showed her it was an okay and safe place to be. Then at night when she was really sleepy (around 8:30) I would put her in the crib with a stuffed animal and turn on the aquarim that's in her bed. I stood at the crib and everytime she tried to get up to get out i would just back away and tell her that mommy's here. Well 45 minutes later i thought my eyes were playing tricks on me when she fell asleep all by herself sitting up. I did the same thing the next night and it took about 20 min. of me standing there. then repeated the next night and it took about 10 min. So it took about a week of this. She has waken up in the middle of the night since then, but no is able to self sooth by turning on her aquarim toy.
I also stopped rocking her during the day in order for her to take a nap. I wanted her to fall asleep on her own. and practicing having her fall asleep on her own during the day was not so hard on me. Because i was more awake and not so set on getting to bed myself. Try this and let me know how it works. this worked so well for me that I really wished i tried this technique earlier! |
| posted by Kelly on 12/13/2007 |
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| What finally worked with my son was doing quiet activities before he went to bed. At 6:00 we would look at books, or do a puzzle, etc. Next came dinner. When he was finished eating I would give him his bath, put his pj's on, let him say night night to daddy, and finally carry him off to bed. Once he was in his room I wouldn't let him get up again. I also put a humidifier and fan in his room for white noise which helped. This worked for me. If on occassion he wakes up through the night I carry him back to bed, rub his back and quietly exit the room. Surprisingly it works every time! |
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