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Hello,
I'm pretty new to this whole Indigo term. Read about it here and there and believe my 4 yr old son is an indigo child (or maybe spirited..whats the difference??) He's been told by many that he has the eyes of an old soul. His mannerism is that of an old being. Everything has to be put back in the way that it was ever since he was maybe 2??, his hands has to be clean most of the time, and he speaks to you has though he's the boss and you are underneath him. My mom who is psychic claims that he has telepathically spoken to her when he was a baby. He's always had an issue about eating. He can sit there for 2 hours and stare at his food. He's said some things that would suggest he remebers his past life.
But back to the current issue that I have. My son just recently started preschool at a private school. Last year he attended preschool through early intervention for speech problems. The class was small and he got along great with other children. This year at his new school he's been bitting children (while being provoked and not being provoked), hitting children and the teacher, and recently pulling the hair of a child. I tried talking to him to find out what is bothering him and he will not tell me anything. All he says is "I don't know". He goes to bed at 7:30 every night and has full meals before bedtime and before school. So he can't be tired or hungry.I feel like I've done something wrong and I can't help him. Are there any parents here who has dealt with this situation? do you know why he is acting this way? Thank you. |
| Posted by Pailin on 09/23/2008 12:59 PM
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that is when it started for my son,he is 7 now and we are still trying to figure out the problem,he gets frustrated,then angry very fast and lashes out,mostly at teachers rather than the other children,but basically whoever is the target of his frustration. he also likes to control situation's and tends to be a master negotiator.
he has been diagnosed with opositinal defiance disorder and adhd,even ritalin did not work for him,he started in a school program this year that specializes in behavioural issues.
i would strongly suggest that you bring him to your pediatrician before you walk down the same road as i,ask about programs for preschool aged children with behavioral problems and seek these out before you have to medicate him,there are not alot of schools that will tolerate these behaviours for very long,ii is better taken seriously now and dealt with before he attends public school and the demands on him are greater.
good luck! |
| posted by shushy on 09/25/2008 05:50 PM
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Hi Pailin,
I completely feel your frustration and I wish I could give you the magic answer but unfortunately, there isn't one. My son is now in Grade 3 and honestly, it's progressively gotten worse and for the life of me, cannot pinpoint the trigger. He gets into trouble when he sticks up for someone or for himself, when someone wrongs him, he will wait for an opportunity to get back at them, and his philosophy is typically an "eye for an eye". He also gets into trouble when an adult does not see him as an "equal". <---- indigo's see themselves as being on higher ground than everyone else.
He isn't a bad kid and at home, he wouldn't dare doing some of the things he does in school and that may be because we know his triggers?!?! One day, his daily report will be glowing and the next, he'll get sent home. You'll ask him why he did something and the answer will always be the same, "I don't know". I've worked closely with the school and his teachers, creating progress reports, goals to work on... and I have come to the point where I am seriously considering home schooling because it just seems to be one issue after the other. I have tried to play the devil's advocate and he knows that there are consequences for his actions (never physical but rather grounded from the things he loves) but it doesn't seem to do much good. I really don't believe that the school system is prepared to handle these new breed of children and my son definitely does not fit into the same box as everyone else... not only socially but his learning style as well.
Here in Saskatoon there aren't a lot of options for schooling but I have heard that there are some great alternative schools for children like ours. I'd encourage you to do some research and see if there are any available in your area.
Hope this helps a little!
Tamara |
| posted by Tamara on 10/20/2008 02:53 PM
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I feel everyone's pain here, as I have one just like all of your children too, my 7 year old. I finally had to pull him out after 1st grade and he is homeschooled because schools do not know how to deal with sensative kids (my son picks up on others emotions, in a hectic situation like school , he becomes chaotic and unstable). It started in Kindergarten which is the first real setting he was around a large group of kids away from me. but he has seen counselors since the age of 3. None of that worked, I refuse to medicate.
As far as helping his behavior... there needs to be a place that is just for him in the classroom, somewhere he can block everyone else out when he starts to feel overwhelmed. Talk to his teacher, see if she can set up a place on the floor, prolly in a corner, set out a blanket and things that YOU know calm him so he can "center" himself again. At this age kids do not know how to block everything out, maybe teach him some mediation that he can do in his "place" at school. I know at 4 that seems impossible, but maybe have him imagine a quiet place, with no sounds or have a radio playing soothing sounds for him like water running or nature sounds... have him focus on that only until he feels calm enough to join the group again. I tried to tell my son's teachers he needed this but they refused to "treat him differently than the rest of the class".((hugs)) we are all learning how to adjust to our kids, it just takes time, good luck hun! |
| posted by Nicole on 10/20/2008 10:27 PM
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