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| running away? jack will take off and no matter what we say or do he just keeps going. he's 3 so he understands our words he just chooses not to listen. when he takes off we yell stop, or jack stop, or no, or any combination of those words. he will stop for a second, usually, then start again. we end up having to run after him which just makes him go faster. when we catch him we tell him why it's important to stop when we say. if we're at home we bring him in as punishment, but that's not so easy when we're out and about. our biggest concern with this is safety the road we live on has a 55mph speed limit which means cars really do 70-80. any tips? |
| Posted by debi on 07/09/2007 07:25 PM
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| have you tried the freeze game?? I read in a magazine that sometimes that helps with runners. You play this game where you teach then freeze and go. kind of like red light green light and then when you are out it will be like a game to him when you say freeze he stops. Or you could possibly see if you could take him to a firestation and have a fireman tell him the dangers of running off. Its hard for a 3 yr old to funny understand the dangers you just have to keep reminding them why its not safe to run away from you. hope i have been of some help. |
| posted by Nikki on 07/09/2007 08:57 PM
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| Our son who is now 3 1/2 used to do this...and to be honest we use the reward system now...we are members of a gym and the only way he gets to go with us to the childrens center is if he is good during the day...and trust me he WANTS to go to the center every day...because after we work out, he gets to go swimming with us...so he does whatever needs to be done, so he can go with us...you might try and find something reward wise that works for this type of behavior...good luck, I know it is hard... |
| posted by Shanna on 07/09/2007 09:43 PM
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| I found that chasing my son only made him run further, but if i pretended to ignore him or acted like i was going to "leave" without him.....pretend like i was getting in the car and drive away kind of thing, he would run right back. |
| posted by Becky on 07/10/2007 06:28 AM
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| I have a 21/2 yr old and he does the same thing. I have try rewards and if he is not good and doesn't get a reward he just screams. I have tried freeze, but mine is to young to understand the point of the game. I have gotten one of those animal leashes so he doesn't think it is a leash, just his monkey backpack. People may look at me funny but it bets him running in the parking lot. I know he will get some other things I am tring for this problem but for now I use a leash. I don't use it all the time just in times were he will be at the most danger if he runs off. Good luck at finding a solution I know how frustrating it is. |
| posted by Karolyn on 07/10/2007 09:43 AM
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| I used the harness quite a bit when my son was around that age and it worked wonders he got the freedom to walk around and i knew he wouldn't get hit by a car or anything. People looked but i didn't care because i was doing my job i kept my child safe. ITs not around their neck people need to grow up. If it works then its doing its job and i don't think it looks bad the new ones are really cute i plan to buy one once my one year old is ready to walk more on his own outside. |
| posted by Nikki on 07/10/2007 10:11 AM
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